“I know my child needs to learn how to express her feelings. I know I need to hear her heart. I know we need to talk. But I don’t know where to begin.”
This question was so well phrased. Everyone does need to learn to communicate. Those that don’t will not be able to develop meaningful relationships. Texting is convenient but it isn’t really communicating. It’s just messaging.
Communication between two people takes time and developing the ability to communicate takes even more time.
Ever slam a cabinet to make a point? You were responding to a frustrating situation. You were frustrated because you either didn’t know what to say or didn’t want to waste your time trying to say something since no one was listening. In your pain, this behavior (slamming a cabinet) seemed to make you feel better. That’s called signal behavior.
How did the Joseph of Genesis 37 thru 50 have such a strong self-esteem that he never caved into the temptations of Potiphar’s wife? He knew the One to whom he belonged. Joseph never caved into the culture around him because he had learned, over a period of time, that God was really in control and that God had a dream for him.
Growing to a point of feeling good about who you are, because you know Whose you are takes much more than religion
As we discussed yesterday, Mom plays a very significant part in the development of the child’s self-esteem. As the child grows past infancy dad plays an equally significant role. It’s very important, however, for parents to understand that they will be handing off the self-esteem baton.
Parents always play a part in affirming the worth of the child, but parents aren’t always around. A two decade training process takes place of pointing a child toward the right audience of affirmation. One way or another
The way a child assesses his or her worth is definitely a process that is developed over time. Over a period of years a child learns that he has worth either by what he can do well (best athlete amongst his peers) or by the way he is unconditionally loved. In other words, he learns to feel loved either by what he can do or who he is.
It is the very important job of the parent, especially mom initially, to help the child feel loved without condition. To appraise his value by whose he is rather than