Monthly Archives: September 2009

Beginning to communicate!

2009-10-07T22:12:02+00:00

mother - daughter listening iStock_000000708861XSmall“I know my child needs to learn how to express her feelings.  I know I need to hear her heart.  I know we need to talk.  But I don’t know where to begin.”

This question was so well phrased.  Everyone does need to learn to communicate. Those that don’t will not be able to develop meaningful relationships.  Texting is convenient but it isn’t really communicating.  It’s just messaging.

Communication between two people takes time and developing the ability to communicate takes even more time.

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Beginning to communicate! 2009-10-07T22:12:02+00:00

Signal Behavior

2009-10-07T22:11:16+00:00

Ever slam a cabinet to make a point?  You were responding to a frustrating situation. You were frustrated because you either didn’t know what to say or didn’t want to waste your time trying to say something since no one was listening.  In your pain, this behavior (slamming a cabinet) seemed to make you feel better.   That’s called signal behavior.


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Signal Behavior 2009-10-07T22:11:16+00:00

The ongoing process of the development of self-esteem

2009-11-25T09:51:32+00:00

How did the Joseph of Genesis 37 thru 50 have such a strong self-esteem that he never caved into the temptations of Potiphar’s wife?  He knew the One to whom he belonged.  Joseph never caved into the culture around him because he had learned, over a period of time, that God was really in control and that God had a dream for him.

Growing to a point of feeling good about who you are, because you know Whose you are takes much more than religion (more…)

The ongoing process of the development of self-esteem 2009-11-25T09:51:32+00:00

Developing a healthy self-esteem in your child

2009-11-25T09:51:02+00:00

iStock_000000583468XSmall father-daughter bibleAs we discussed yesterday, Mom plays a very significant part in the development of the child’s self-esteem. As the child grows past infancy dad plays an equally significant role.  It’s very important, however, for parents to understand that they will be handing off the self-esteem baton.

Parents always play a part in affirming the worth of the child, but parents aren’t always around.  A two decade training process takes place of pointing a child toward the right audience of affirmation.  One way or another (more…)

Developing a healthy self-esteem in your child 2009-11-25T09:51:02+00:00

What part do parents play in the development of a healthy self-esteem?

2009-11-25T09:50:34+00:00

mother & son

The way a child assesses his or her worth is definitely a process that is developed over time.  Over a period of years a child learns that he has worth either by what he can do well (best athlete amongst his peers) or by the way he is unconditionally loved.  In other words, he learns to feel loved either by what he can do or who he is.

It is the very important job of the parent, especially mom initially, to help the child feel loved without condition.  To appraise his value by whose he is rather than (more…)

What part do parents play in the development of a healthy self-esteem? 2009-11-25T09:50:34+00:00

Exactly what is self-esteem?

2009-11-25T09:49:59+00:00

Healthy self-esteem has nothing to do with performance, although you wouldn’t know it in our culture.  Giving all the children in the class the same grades so that no one gets their feelings hurt doesn’t prepare any child for the real world they will face… and we are supposed to be preparing them for the real world aren’t we?   (more…)

Exactly what is self-esteem? 2009-11-25T09:49:59+00:00

A healthy self-esteem is extremely important.

2009-11-25T09:49:08+00:00

Having a proper understanding of the development of a healthy self-esteem in your child is so incredibly important … and yet confusing. What is it? Are we born with our self-esteem? How does my child develop a proper self-esteem?  What part, if any, does a parent play?

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A healthy self-esteem is extremely important. 2009-11-25T09:49:08+00:00

What age do you start teaching chores?

2009-09-23T22:10:00+00:00

Gulliver in the Country of LilliputsBack on the farm families started teaching a child to do chores the minute he or she could walk. It was always “all hands on deck”.  Today, parents can still do the same thing.

When a toddler takes all his toys out of the toy box, both he and your have a choice to make. It would be so much faster and easier for mom to manage the child’s space by picking up everything for the child.  But, that would be a missed opportunity to train and affirm the child.

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What age do you start teaching chores? 2009-09-23T22:10:00+00:00