Ever notice that when you are the most stressed to get something done the kids are also the most active to get your attention.
It’s 6:00 in the evening and you have just rushed in the door. You’re flying to get dinner on the table while the kids are sitting in the family room watching something on Television.
Then out of nowhere comes a blood curdling scream from your youngest child. The older child has poked him, is sitting too close to him, gotten the remote away from him and is changing the channels or anything else he can do to upset his younger sibling.
Why you ask? Why when you are so busy trying to get dinner prepared would these children once again start bothering each other?
Because they are bored! And when the oldest child is bored the best toy he has is his younger sibling. Whether it’s in the back seat of the car or sitting in the family room, annoying his younger sibling is a great way to pass the time.
That’s why we park their minds in front of televisions in the house or DVD players in the car. It distracts them, but it doesn’t teach them (that’s for another blog).
The dream of every parent is that the child would do more than simply get along. We dream they would love each other and take care of each other. We imagine them going through life holding hands.
Building family takes work. You have to deal with the acts of sibling rivalry and then work to create sibling love.
Next: Dealing with sibling rivalry in a way that doesn’t pit them against each other.