Love to me means my family and God. ~Hannah, age 7
As we close out our “love month” we get to look at the best quality of love. True love never fails. Our children need to be able to say with confidence that, “no matter what, my parents will love me.” One of the ways we communicate this is how we discipline. Through discipline we need to constantly communicate that we are disappointed in the choices made or behaviors displayed but not the child. The phrase should not be “I’m so disappointed in you!” It should be “I’m disappointed that you made that choice because now you have chosen to go to bed early and I was looking forward to spending time with you.” Again we have to be very aware of what is coming out of our mouths. We need to not discipline out of anger or frustration because when we do we can sometimes communicate disappointment with the person rather than the behavior. Make the choice to resolve the relationship after discipline. Sit and talk to the child; hug the child to make sure they know that we still love them. Our relationship is not damaged because of the choices they made. That is how we communicate that no matter what happens “I will always love you.” We must extend to our children the same love our Heavenly Father extends to us!