The deterrents and why is it hard to do. Grandparents, friends in the Christian community, multi-ethnicity, married to opposite, single parenting and all the ways to work it out and achieve a form of consistency.
We need to maintain consistency without withdrawing our relationship from our children. When we withdraw our relationship we become part of the consequence.
The purpose behind parenting is to raise a successful, God-honoring adult. We give our children a key to success when we are consistent with no. We are ultimately training them how to say no. A skill they will need for adulthood is ability to say no in the face of temptation
"When a child doesn't know that 'no' means 'no', it's pandemonium." Parents must respond appropriately to objections from the child, they need boundaries.
Children thrive under consistent boundaries. When parents are not on the same page these boundaries cannot be consistent. It can ultimately make the child feel very insecure. Children will even test this to see if mom and dad are on the same page.
It can cause disagreements when a parent are being too lax or too hard on a child. During a parental staff meeting, always keep your goals in the forefront of the conversation. Some of the ultimate goals of parenting are raising a child to be a Godly adult and raising a child to be both marriageable and employable.
When the word conflict is brought up, it can bring with it many different emotions. Some will avoid conflict at all costs and others like to argue just for arguing sake. Disagreements can be healthy in a marriage if handled appropriately.
Most of the time we marry our opposite. This will cause us to see parenting from different points of view. When brought together and talked through these differing views can help to strengthen the parenting team. There has to be a time to discuss so that we are on the same page when addressing our children.