What’s Your Priority?
If the success of a blending family, or any family for that matter, rides on the marriage we have to consistently check our priorities. Our priorities need to be God first, spouse second and children third. We also need to evaluate how we are living these priorities out.
One thing we can do is to communicate that our marriage is a priority to our children. A way to do this is present a united team. Because of the nature of blending two families together both parents will probably have different ways of doing things. It is essential to set aside time for parental staff meetings where there is a safe place for disagreements. Because it is so imperative for children of blending families to see the two parents working as a team, these staff meetings may need to take place daily.
Another way to communicate that the marriage is a priority to the children is verbally. Children often will act out as a result of their pain. This is called signal behavior. In a blending family often that pain is taken out on the stepparent. It is important for children to see their mother or father back the stepparent. This communicates the importance of the marriage relationship.
Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on Blending Families.