The Potential Negative Impacts of Daycare | Part 2

The Potential Negative Impacts of Daycare | Part 2

Jul 31

The Emotional Issues Linked to Daycare

There are some emotional issues that come up when placing your child in daycare which need to be addressed.  The earlier the child is placed in care the greater the impact of these issues.  Research has stated that it can diminish bonding with the mother, which can lead to emotional issues in the future.   It states, ”infants’ emotional development may be disrupted with the attachment process is undermined by the repeated extended separation involved in placing an infant in fully time daycare. “

Emotional stability is created and maintained in the home environment.  The current societal mentality seems to be pushing parents to be facilitators of their children rather then nurtures.  If your children spend all day out of the home it can feed this mentality, as you are rushing to get home from work, pick up your child, get dinner, everyone cleaned and to bed, only to do again tomorrow.  This hectic schedule doesn’t leave a lot of time for the nurturing of young children.

Lastly we need to remember that we as parents are the ones who’s responsibility it is to mirror God’s unconditional love.  We are the ones who are to applaud the character and effort of our children not the performance.  This is very difficult to do when we are constantly rushing because we have to truly and deeply know our children.

 

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The Potential Negative Impacts of Daycare | Part 1

The Potential Negative Impacts of Daycare | Part 1

Jul 30

The Decision To Place My Child In Daycare

For the somewhat controversial topic of daycare we first need to mention that there are many families out there today, especially in this economy, which have no options as far as daycare is concerned.  For the families that do have an option the impacts of putting your child in daycare must be weighed.  Any family who uses daycare must be prepared for some of the challenges it brings.

Today we need to look at the question of why many place their children in daycare.  Like we stated previously many families have no options, single parent families and families hit hard by the current economic state are examples.  For parents who do have options what are the reasons for choosing to place your child in daycare? Some of the reasons that have been stated are, to socialize my child, to use my degree to further my career and make a difference, to give my child a PreK schooling experience so they can get ahead in school, and finally putting a child in daycare always makes good financial sense.  Many of these are myths, which we are going to spend time this week breaking down so you as a parent can feel you are making an educated decision about daycare.  As we stated previously if there is no option due to your circumstance then you will be able to face possible issues head on because you are prepared for them.

 

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Sibling Rivalry | Part 5

Sibling Rivalry | Part 5

Jul 27

Sibling Rivalry and Personalities

There are many aspects of parenting where our children’s different personalities may have an affect.  Sibling rivalry can be one of those areas.  If you have a child who is very sensitive you may be tempted to rescue them whenever they get their feelings hurt.  This may not help them in the long run, however.  If our job is to train our child for adulthood we may need to help our sensitive child learn how to cope.  There are obviously times we need to step in when picking on each other goes too far.  When our sensitive child gets their feelings hurt we may just need to take some time to talk them through it.   Many times they are getting picked on because of their reaction.  Teaching them how to cope will help them not only in the school years but also help them to not wear their feelings on their sleeve as adults.

The other child we can take extra time with is the child who is our leader.  Our goal should be training up all of our children to be future leaders but our first-born has been naturally placed in this role.  We can start allowing them areas of leadership.  As the oldest they will have more privileges then their siblings as they grow, so their responsibilities will grow as well.  Having a sense of ownership in their leadership role will help with the sibling rivalry we just have to guide them.

Take the time to come up with a plan for the different personalities in your home.

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Sibling Rivalry | Part 4

Sibling Rivalry | Part 4

Jul 26

Don’t Just Manage Sibling Rivalry Train For Relationship

There are so many times that we get caught up in attempting to manage the fighting between our children we forget to give opportunities for relationship.  There are several areas where we can train our children to enjoy and ultimately serve each other.  This may not be something that comes naturally to our children so we need to look for opportunities to help them with it.  Make sure there are routine times for sibling fun in your house.  Game nights are great for family interaction.  Have a weekly “fun Friday” where you allow your kids to have a big slumber party in the living room with popcorn and a movie.  It is our job to create experiences to promote camaraderie in our kids.

Another area to focus on is training our kids to serve each other.  Look for areas where you can help one child serve the other.  For example, your older child has a big test to study for and it is their job to do the dishes.  Talk to your younger child and have them help you do the dishes for the older one.  Make sure the child is receiving plenty of praise from you as they help you do the dishes.   This is a great training opportunity that so often we miss.

Make sure that you take the extra time to create opportunities for fun and service.  It will go along way in helping your children’s relationship with each other.

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Sibling Rivalry | Part 3

Sibling Rivalry | Part 3

Jul 25

Using Sibling Rivalry for Training in Impulse and Attitude Control

Siblings are a great learning and practicing tool for marriage and coworkers.  Utilizing this for training in both impulse control and not allowing someone else to control our attitude is important.  We touched on how to do this yesterday.  Make sure you are consistently communicating what the other options to fighting are.  When you hear fighting from the other room you can take that moment to remind your children, as a warning for their behavior, what the right choice would be.  After the warning, if the inappropriate behavior continues then a consequence can occur.  By doing this you are reminding your children to use self-control or to control their impulses.  Immaturity would say to retaliate when someone does something to you.  Maturity would be able to look past it and deal with it appropriately.

The next thing we can utilize siblings for is to teach our children that attitude is a choice.  You can choose to let someone else’s actions control your mood or you can refocus both yourself and your mood.  Again in both of these training opportunities positive reinforcement goes along way.  This may mean more work for us as parents as we look for things to praise.  We also sometimes mean well and then get too busy to mention it when our kids make the right choice.  Take the time and effort to go crazy for good behavior; that sometimes speaks more loudly then consequences for the poor choices.

 

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