Monthly Archives: October 2012

Raising a Responsible Citizen | Part 3

2012-10-31T14:42:58+00:00

Being A Godly Citizen Means Being Salt And Light

As a Christian, part of our calling is to be salt and light to those around us.  Salt adds flavor to the environment around it.  Light does several things, illuminate the darkness, give direction, and reveal flaws.  We can see in the Bible how the children of Israel continuously turn away from following God.  He many times has to bring in a judge, prophet or king to remind them of His ways then within a generation it seems they have fallen away again.  We can see this pattern in our nation when you look at how far we have come in only a little over 200 years.

This starts at home.  We must be salt an light in our home then to those around us.  How will our children know how to be to be good citizens unless we teach them? We cannot “subcontract” out our citizenship thinking either I’m too busy or some one else will do it.  Our country has no hope for change unless we are, or raise, the generation to bring about that change.

 

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Raising a Responsible Citizen | Part 3 2012-10-31T14:42:58+00:00

Raising a Responsible Citizen | Part 2

2012-10-31T19:59:03+00:00

Teaching Your Child To Take A Stand

Yesterday, we looked at what a responsible citizen looks like, but what are things that we can do to expose our children to what this actually looks like? The first thing is making the choice to be informed.  Look into and research the issues.  Don’t just take others word for it, find things out for yourself.  This is a great discipline that you can even do with your older child or teen.  Make it a game to see who can become the most informed on an issue.  Then always be sure to take back what you learned and compare it to God’s word, is there anything that scripture says about that particular issue?

The next thing you can do is make the choice to be active.  If there are important issues at hand make sure that you are at the very least setting the example, or including your kids, and writing, calling or emailing your politicians about it.  With the nation seemingly as polarized on beliefs as it is the next step may be difficult, but make the choice to speak up.  We can set the example in choosing to discuss the issues politely.  Make sure that you are setting the example for your child and engaging in an adult-like and Christ-like manner. In today’s culture of attacking each other venomously, observing a healthy discussion can be an invaluable lesson.

 

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Raising a Responsible Citizen | Part 2 2012-10-31T19:59:03+00:00

Raising a Responsible Citizen | Part 1

2012-10-31T09:06:35+00:00

What Does It Mean To Be A Responsible Citizen?

Many people like to tout the rights of citizenship and many people go to great lengths to become citizens, but we also must accept the responsibilities of citizenship. We have raised generations since WW 2 who ask themselves, “What’s in it for me?” We need to work to raise a generation that believes they have a
responsibility to “do” for this country. It’s not that I pay taxes so that makes me an entitled Renter of this great country. I pay taxes and that makes me a responsible receiver of the blessing. Why do we only rally when we think we might have something taken away? Why do we only seek God when we fear? God has blessed us with this great privilege called America. We need the perspective that some had to work hard to get here. For those of us who have been given this blessing we need to remember to whom much is given, much is required.

Godly citizenship does not boil down
to your opinion, to what you want, to your party affiliation, your personal sociological perspective, marriage or sexual preference issues or your desire not to offend. Teach your children how to choose issues from what God says. Let’s begin thinking of raising a generation that doesn’t only get a piece of the pie vita generation willing to do their part.

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Raising a Responsible Citizen | Part 1 2012-10-31T09:06:35+00:00

Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 5

2012-10-13T15:11:08+00:00

When Someone Else Is Also Training Your Toddler

There maybe many instances where a toddler may have the opportunity to practice the training outside your home. There may be short stints like nursery or longer stints such as daycare. The short stints can be looked at as practice times away from mom and dad. Be sure to take the time with the childcare worker/nursery attendant/babysitter to check how your child behaved and see what they need to work on.
The areas that can be a little bit more complicated are the family ones. Such as, time with grandparents or sharing time between mom and dad in a divorce. If possible share your parenting plan to see if, for the sake of the children, everyone can do the same thing. If this is not a possibility then at the very least make sure that your house is as consistent as it can be. Be aware that as children come back into your home they will have some adjustment time and adjust your expectations.

For more on the topic of training toddlers listen to today’s podcast.

Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 5 2012-10-13T15:11:08+00:00

Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 4

2012-10-11T20:20:32+00:00

Toddler Triggers

One of the things in dealing with toddlers is being preemptive with behavior. There are certain things that can trigger behavior and if a parent is aware of them they can
head off a potential melt down.
Some are very basic, but may not be thought about in the midst of the fray. Hunger can be a basic trigger as well as being over tired. So a trip to the grocery store too close to nap or lunch time may result in bad behavior. Overstimulation may also cause behavior issues because the toddler cannot process anything else.
Another behavior trigger for toddlers is boredom. This is an easy fix when you sense that your toddler is getting antsy, create an activity. Behavior also seems to slide when mom or dad is distracted so if a phone call needs to be made or another job needs to be done, take the time to get your toddler focused on something ahead of time. We discussed how important having a routine is for a toddler so taking them out of that routine may cause behavior issues because it is unfamiliar. The final trigger we will discuss is other children. Toddlers tend to be brilliant mimics because their brains are so programed for learning at this phase. Be ready when your toddler is around other kids, which is unavoidable, to deal with potential behavior that is picked up.

Listen to today’s podcast for more on training toddlers.

Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 4 2012-10-11T20:20:32+00:00

Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 3

2012-10-10T13:05:06+00:00

The Healthy Process Of Training

Being consistent in the toddler years with training may help us for the long run. A toddler that consistently pushes back and continues to hit a wall, or consistent consequence, will eventually learn cause and effect. Eventually they will learn, “If I continue to do this I will not like the outcome.” You have already won the battle at an early age and your child knows that your “no means no”. There are several things that make training a toddler a bit easier. Toddlers thrive in a routine. If they know what to expect next they feel same and comfortable. Toddlers also need consistent sleep. A child who is not getting enough sleep will exhibit bad behavior because it is harder for them to control themselves. Toddlers need time to exert their energy. They need times to be able to just run and play. Like we mentioned yesterday the toddler also thrives on praise. They seem so much more willing to do things if a positive or exciting spin can be put on it rather then just a demand. For example making a game out of something as simple as picking up toys, may make it less of a battle. It also may help make the mundane of the continual day to day training fun for mom and dad as well.

Listen to today’s podcast for more on toddler training.

Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 3 2012-10-10T13:05:06+00:00

Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 2

2012-10-08T15:58:33+00:00

The Important Months For Establishing Consistent Boundaries And Encouragement

Toddlerhood is such a crucial time for parenting. Because they are beginning to explore the world around them and are processing everything, the toddler is ripe for this process. What an amazing phase of life that can happen so quickly. It seems like seconds between holding the completely dependent infant and chasing the toddler who is pushing hard for independence. This must be a confusing time for them as they are trying to learn how to communicate, control their emotions and learn boundaries. For this reason this is the time for us to implement the parenting plan and be consistent with consequences and praise. It’s not every phase of childhood that a cheer or applause (literally) can encourage your child to make the right decision. I remember trying to get my firstborn to eat his peas one night because he had hit a picky phase and didn’t want anything. At a loss I made up a “pea song” and would sing it for each bite eaten. It’s amazing what praise will do for encouraging a child in the right direction but it’s crucial for the toddler phase.
Take the time to set up those boundaries for your toddler and remember to go crazy with praise if they make a step in the right direction.

Listen to today’s podcast for more on training toddlers.

Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 2 2012-10-08T15:58:33+00:00

Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 1

2017-02-06T18:30:40+00:00

Toddlers Are Suppose To Push Boundaries

To recap our last week discussing toddlers, we should not be surprised when they push the boundaries. We need to take it a step further and anticipate that they will push the boundaries. Forgive the analogy but it is similar to a dog learning an invisible electric fence. It isn’t a boundary that can physically be seen so they have to run until they hit the “consequence”. The dog must test the entirety of the fence to learn where his boundary lie. Some dogs will consistently push the limits. Others will learn more quickly and can even have their collars removed and will never leave the area because they believe there will be a consequence. Our toddlers have to learn this as well. They aren’t born immediately knowing their boundaries or even what is safe for them. We must teach them but we also must expect them to push back to see if the boundary is solid or if it is something that will change every time.  How hard they push back and how often can change with each child due to their temperament.
Listen to today’s podcast for more on training toddlers.

Training Toddlers with Guest: Torrey Roberts | Part 1 2017-02-06T18:30:40+00:00

Mothering is Harder Than I Thought | Part 5

2014-11-03T12:55:48+00:00

Ways To Get Help As A Mom And As An Individual

One thing that we could all use more of is encouragement.  As moms we really benefit from being around others who are in the same stage of life as we are or even people who have gone ahead of us.  It is so easy for us as moms to get isolated in our daily activities and unless we are intentional we end up feeling so lonely.

There are many ways to find time to be with other moms.   Many churches have ministries solely for moms.  You can even set up a time every week for a park date with other moms who have kids of similar age.  Especially as we head into the summer months with our children home we need to be intentional about making these times out with other moms.

It is also beneficial to be able to have some adult woman time away from the children.  Whether that is a bible study that has child care or your husband is willing to take the children for an evening every once in a while.  Women thrive in community.  We even seem to get energy from being around each other.  This is another thing that is important to make sure and some how fit it into that crazy schedule.  It is worth the effort!

 

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Mothering is Harder Than I Thought | Part 5 2014-11-03T12:55:48+00:00

Mothering is Harder Than I Thought | Part 4

2012-09-30T20:36:10+00:00

How Is A Mom To Get Help

Many moms today because of the economy are working outside the home.  There are also many moms who are having to work from home to bring in extra income.  The problem is that statistics show that most of the time it is the women who are still coming home from work to do all of the house work and cooking and dealing with the kids.  This is not a slam on men, most don’t know how they can help.  They probably didn’t observe it in their home or are afraid to mess up the system.

There is a way to create a team for the family especially when both parents are working.  That is encouragement!  Don’t be afraid to ask your spouse to do something.  Most men would happily help if they knew what their wife needed help with.  Then we need to encourage when they help. This is another area of struggle for many women.  Many of us are very particular in how we want things done and nitpick if someone else does it.  We need to learn to be grateful and express the gratitude for a job done, not complain how it wasn’t done right.  Make sure you are taking the time to express gratitude for help offered to you!

 

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Mothering is Harder Than I Thought | Part 4 2012-09-30T20:36:10+00:00