Monthly Archives: March 2013

What To Do With Easter | Part 5

2013-04-01T12:41:18+00:00

A Story For Easter

There is a beautiful story that you can read to your children Easter morning. It is a story that has to do with the linen cloth placed over Jesus face during his burial.  Here it is.

The Folded Napkin (author anonymous)

The Gospel of John (20:7) tells us that the napkin, which was placed over the face of Jesus, was not just thrown aside like the grave clothes.

The Bible takes an entire verse to tell us that the napkin was neatly folded, and was placed at the head of that stony coffin.

Early Sunday morning, while it was still dark, Mary Magdalene came to the tomb and found that the stone had been rolled away from the entrance.

She ran and found Simon Peter and the other disciple, the one whom Jesus loved.. She said, ‘They have taken the Lord’s body out of the tomb, and I don’t know where they have put him!’

Peter and the other disciple ran to the tomb to see. The other disciple out ran Peter and got there first. He stopped and looked in and saw the linen cloth lying there, but he didn’t go in.

Then Simon Peter arrived and went inside. He also noticed the linen wrappings lying there, while the cloth that had covered Jesus’ head was folded up and lying to the side.

Was that important? Absolutely!

Is it really significant? Yes!

In order to understand the significance of the folded napkin, you have to understand a little bit about Hebrew tradition of that day.   The folded napkin had to do with the Master and Servant, and every Jewish boy knew this tradition.

When the servant set the dinner table for the master, he made sure that it was exactly the way the master wanted it.   The table was furnished perfectly, and then the servant would wait, just out of sight, until the master had finished eating, and the servant would not dare touch that table, until the master was finished.

Now if the master were done eating, he would rise from the table, wipe his fingers, his mouth, and clean his beard, and would wad up that napkin and toss it onto the table.    The servant would then know to clear the table. For in those days, the wadded napkin meant,  “I’m finished.”

But if the master got up from the table, and folded his napkin, and laid it beside his plate, the servant would not dare touch the table, because……….

The folded napkin meant,

“I’m coming back”

 

author- unknown

Listen to today’s podcast for more on celebrating Easter as a Family.

What To Do With Easter | Part 5 2013-04-01T12:41:18+00:00

What To Do With Easter | Part 4

2013-04-01T12:40:43+00:00

Visuals for Teaching

Like we mentioned yesterday utilizing the Resurrection Eggs to teach children about the message of the Easter week is a great visual aid. But what about taking some of the symbols of the Easter story a step further to teach.

For example take the Spear in the Easter story. The spear, is an amazing representation of the fulfillment of prophecy. The Old Testament states that not a bone would be broken in Jesus body. This is one example of God keeping his word. There are so many amazing promises in the Bible. We can use the fulfillment of prophecy to help children learn to focus on God’s promises.

A fun activity to do is make a promise coupon. Children can think of something they can do for another family member. A promise they alone can fulfill. I could be something that they promise not to do, a teaching tool, such as I promise not to argue about going to bed. It could also be something nice that they will do for another family member, like helping mom clear the dinner dishes. Writing promises down helps children remember. This can be a fun way to help children learn to do what they have promised, like their Heavenly Father does.

Get creative with other objects to use for visuals for teaching your children. Creating activities with children helps them to understand the magnitude of what God has done!

Listen to today’s podcast for more on celebrating Easter as a family.

 

What To Do With Easter | Part 4 2013-04-01T12:40:43+00:00

What To Do With Easter | Part 3

2013-04-01T12:40:09+00:00

Explaining Christ’s Sacrifice at Home

It cost our Savior everything for us to have relationship with God, His Father.  We cannot make light of the sacrifice that Jesus made for us.  Crucifixion was such a horrific way to die that some have stated that it is the most inhumane form of carrying out the death penalty of all time.  It is something that cannot be taken lightly.  Make sure that you are taking the time to help your children understand the sacrifice that Jesus made for us on the cross.  You can utilize Resurrection Eggs for your older children to explain the events of Easter week.

The horrible things that Jesus went through before His death may be a difficult thing to explain to small children.  But helping them understand the reality of what He did for us is very important.  One way to help them begin to understand, is by helping them to see what the outcome of his suffering was.  Jesus’ death and resurrection opened the door of communication between God and humanity.  Our sin stands as a barrier, but when Jesus took that sin upon himself and paid our penalty, that barrier was removed.

To help children visualize this lesson, you can explain that God allowed the cords (or whip) of Jesus suffering to be part of the process to open the communication to Him. The activity that can help children to understand that new communication between God and man, is making an old fashion can/cup telephone.  Punch a hole in the bottom of a cup or can and thread the cord through.  Put a can on the other end and pull the cord taunt. You will then be able to hear a voice talking into the other end. You can even write “God” on one cup and “man” on the other.  Use red yarn or string for an even stronger visual to represent that Jesus blood made this communication possible.

Listen to today’s podcast for more on celebrating Easter as a family.

 

What To Do With Easter | Part 3 2013-04-01T12:40:09+00:00

What To Do With Easter | Part 2

2013-04-01T12:39:16+00:00

Do This in Remembrance of Me

As we begin Easter week, choose to make this a week of different focus for your family.  We will talk about several things that you can do as a family to make this week set apart from the norm.  For many of us who are Christians we get caught up in all the religious activities and don’t allow them to remind us of why we do them.   In the story of Joshua, he has the leaders of the twelve tribes of Israel place twelve large stones together as a monument.  He does this right after they cross the Jordan river.  He tells the people that they are doing this so that when the children ask it will be a reminder of all that God has done for them.  We can utilize these holidays as a monument in our lives.

Many of us today don’t celebrate the season of Lent.  The purpose of the season from Ash Wednesday to Easter, is to set that time apart.  Giving up something for the season reminds us that there is something special about this time.  It is suppose to help our focus be on God.  If you don’t celebrate the season of Lent as a family think about things that you can do this week to set the time apart.  Things that you can use as a family “monument” for what God has done for us.

 

Listen to today’s podcast for more on celebrating Easter as a family.

 

 

What To Do With Easter | Part 2 2013-04-01T12:39:16+00:00

What To Do With Easter | Part 1

2014-04-14T10:40:40+00:00

Why It’s The Most Important Holiday

If we are typical American families, Easter is just another holiday about getting.  It revolves around the Easter bunny, egg hunts, new clothes for Easter Sunday and church.  For many families going to church is a religious event that happens only Christmas Eve and Easter Sunday.  Do we need to do anything different than that for our family?  First we need to decide what it really means to us.

If we truly believe what we say we believe then this day we celebrate is what sets Christianity apart from any other religion.  We claim to believe that this day celebrates the day that Jesus defeated death.   Because God is a Holy God , in order for us to be in relationship with Him we must be with out fault.  This is not possible for us, so God requires payment for our wrong doing.  For years this payment was sacrifices made by the priests for the people.  Jesus stepped in to once and for all take the place of animal sacrifice, His death was the ultimate and final payment for our sin.   His death made it possible for us to be in relationship with God.  Good Friday and Easter celebrates the focal point of Christianity.  We are going to talk about how we celebrate this as a family.

 

Listen to today’s podcast for more on celebrating Easter as a family.

 

What To Do With Easter | Part 1 2014-04-14T10:40:40+00:00

The Reason for Romance in Your Marriage (w/Rosemary Barnes) | Part 5

2013-03-15T20:01:00+00:00

What A Man Needs In A Marriage

The male is much more short term oriented than the female. He is also very performance driven. He spends a lifetime looking for respect, the respect that God is referring to in Ephesians 5:33. Most men have little expectation about what marriage is suppose to do to their lives. So he will quest to find this illusive thing called respect in other arenas, places like work, sports, purchase of “toys”, or others at work. A key element for the wife to realize is that she must choose to respect her husband whether she thinks he is worthy or not. It’s not that he has earned her respect but rather that he is searching for it.

So what can a wife do? She can choose to be satisfied, both with things as well as him as a person. Guard her tongue, like Ephesians 4:29, tells us to do. Guard her heart. Matthew 12:34b says, “For whatever is in your heart determines what you say.” Find a mentor to encourage you in loving your husband and children well, as Titus 2 suggests. Finally, a wife must make the choice to be her husband’s friend and lover not his mother.

Both husbands and wife’s must strive to understand God’s concept of worth. We are not worthy in and of ourselves but we are made worthy because of what He has done for us. We must make the choice to see our spouse the way that God sees us. It also helps to remember that God is not only our father but our father-in-law!

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic.

The Reason for Romance in Your Marriage (w/Rosemary Barnes) | Part 5 2013-03-15T20:01:00+00:00

The Reason for Romance in Your Marriage (w/Rosemary Barnes) | Part 4

2013-03-14T20:00:33+00:00

What A Woman Needs In A Marriage

Ephesians 4:29 tells us to only let things come out of our mouths that are helpful for building up others according to their needs…. What do those needs look like for the wife? First, we need to realize that society has placed a lot of pressure on today’s mom. She is expected to be super mom. Which means she must cook kid friendly nourishing meals, keep a beautifully clean and organized house, balance a career and creative Pinterest found activities/crafts for the kids, maintain behavior, all while keeping herself in perfect shape and looking beautiful. Many of moms attempt to find their worth in these areas, but unfortunately can’t possibly be all things to all people. Her husband can know the pressure placed on her and constantly communicate her worth to him. A husband must be willing to step out of his comfort zone to communicate that he “cherishes” his wife. Our definition of cherish is, precious without performance. A question that a husband can ask himself is, since our marriage has my wife grown in an understanding of herself? Or has that flower bud we discussed yesterday begun to bloom fragrantly?
Check back tomorrow for more on the needs of the husband.

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The Reason for Romance in Your Marriage (w/Rosemary Barnes) | Part 4 2013-03-14T20:00:33+00:00

The Reason for Romance in Your Marriage (w/Rosemary Barnes) | Part 3

2013-03-13T20:00:45+00:00

Find The Combination To The Lock of Your Spouse’s Heart

A great analogy for two people coming into the marriage relationship is that we each are like a flower bud.  It is our job to nourish and encourage that flower to slowly open, or be willing to risk opening up.  A closed bud is protected, where as an open flower is more vulnerable but much more beautiful.  An open flower is doing what it is created to do.

One of the ways we can encourage this vulnerability in each other, is by living out Ephesians 4:29, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”    Our words are so powerful and after time they can either create a safe place for a spouse to open up and be themselves or they can tear down, which can also erode the trust in a relationship.  We must be careful to build each other up verbally but we can also build each other by being aware of what the other needs.  We touched on the fact that each gender needs love to be expressed differently.  For the last two days this week we are going to look at the gender needs in more detail.  Be sure to check back.

 

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The Reason for Romance in Your Marriage (w/Rosemary Barnes) | Part 3 2013-03-13T20:00:45+00:00

The Reason for Romance in Your Marriage (w/Rosemary Barnes) | Part 2

2013-03-13T12:57:29+00:00

Your Spouses Self-Esteem Is In Your Hands

Ephesians 5:33 “So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”  This was the verse that we brought up yesterday on how to express love.  A lot of what this verse is talking about is that illusive often “secular” phrase, self-esteem.  Self-esteem is not a focus on self.  The term self-esteem is a compass or directional word.  It is a word that indicates two things, where you derive your worth from and how well your system is working.  No one can meet all the self-esteem needs of another person.  Self-esteem must come from God, but God also uses the marriage relationship to enhance a person’ s image of self, to affirm and encourage spouses.  Unfortunately, most people get married to get their needs met.   Rather then focusing on my own needs and striving to get them met, I need to make the effort to access, understand and meet the needs of my spouse.   Deuteronomy 24:5 says “A newly married man must not be drafted into the army or given any other special responsibilities.  He must be free to be at home for one year, bringing happiness to the wife he has married.”    Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have a year off of extra responsibilities just to focus our efforts on how to meet each other’s needs?  While getting that year off is not something that happens anymore the focus is no less true.  How can we do better at affirming and encouraging our spouse?

 

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The Reason for Romance in Your Marriage (w/Rosemary Barnes) | Part 2 2013-03-13T12:57:29+00:00

The Reason for Romance in Your Marriage (w/Rosemary Barnes) | Part 1

2013-03-12T09:44:09+00:00

The Example Of Your Marriage To Your Children

One of the reasons that we discuss marriage here on Parenting On Purpose is because the state of your marriage directly impacts your children.  It impacts them presently as well as directly influencing their future marriage.

Romance is a very important element to a marriage. Unfortunately, maintaining romance is hard work so many of us don’t put forth the effort, much past the dating relationship.  Because of romantic movies and other things in society there are very high expectations placed on romance.  What it is at base level, is learning to express love.  Learning to express love in a way that is meaningful to your spouse takes a tremendous amount of study.  Because of gender and personality, different ways to express love will be more meaningful to each individual.  In the great marriage passage in Ephesians 5, there is a closing statement that hints at the gender differences, as well as, gives the answers to those differences.  Ephesians 5:33, “So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” We will spend the rest of this week breaking down what this looks like, be sure to check back.

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The Reason for Romance in Your Marriage (w/Rosemary Barnes) | Part 1 2013-03-12T09:44:09+00:00