Monthly Archives: September 2013

Raising a Leader | Part 1

2013-09-30T13:06:18+00:00

Why It’s Important

What we need in our culture today are true leaders.  Young men and women who are trained and ready to lead this country, their community, businesses and churches in a way that would honor God.  Leaders do not use others to get things done.  They are simply people who catch a dream and a vision to complete that dream; because of this passion others want to follow them.  Unfortunately, most people don’t understand what it means to be a leader.  Leadership is not solely about temperament….it’s about training.

If I am to train up a child in the way that he or she should go, and I know that God wants our children to be leaders, then it stands to reason that I need to know what leaders do and train my child to do that.  We need to look at the one who came here to earth to be our greatest example as leader.  Jesus told us in Matthew 20:16, “So the last will be first, and the first will be last.”  He also gave us an example of this in John 13:1, where He washes the disciples feet.  As far as Jesus is concerned true leadership all boils down to understanding the concept of serving others.

 

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on raising a leader.

 

Raising a Leader | Part 1 2013-09-30T13:06:18+00:00

Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! w/Julianna Guevara | Part 5

2013-09-27T13:19:53+00:00

Teaching Purity And Modesty

This is such an important thing to instill in your children. Click here to check out our week long series on this topic of sexual purity.

 

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Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! w/Julianna Guevara | Part 5 2013-09-27T13:19:53+00:00

Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! w/Julianna Guevara | Part 4

2013-09-26T20:25:27+00:00

Hope For Kids In Bad Schools

There are circumstances in which a parent can’t simply pull a child out of a school. So what can parents do to help a child sift through the negativity around them? Probably the most important thing a parent can do is talk. Have an open door policy in your house for questions. Don’t over react to a question that your child brings up because that may shut them down. As parents, we need to be the ones giving our children the answers so we always want them to feel comfortable bringing questions or concerns to us.

Secondly, we can get involved in our children’s schools. Try to schedule a time to volunteer, go to PTA meetings or school sporting events. Get to know your child’s teachers and consistently communicate with them. The more involvement you can have at your child’s school the more likely you are to get a feel for the issues that your child may face.  Even if your child is in a difficult school, don’t give up. Choose to make the best of the situation and make sure you are going overboard to pursue relationship with your child.

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic.

Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! w/Julianna Guevara | Part 4 2013-09-26T20:25:27+00:00

Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! w/Julianna Guevara | Part 3

2013-09-25T15:02:24+00:00

Dealing With Diversity

One of the things that’s beautiful about the United States is the beautiful tapestry of ethnicity.  There are so many different races, ethnic groups and religions here that if we take the opportunity we can have many cultural experiences.  One of the biggest blessings to me personally is that as we raise our boys here in South Florida they get to have so many different cultural experiences.  With that, however, can come hostility towards different cultures, races and religions.  Sadly, we tend to naturally fear whatever we think is different.  It is so awesome to observe my small children, because of the diversity here, there is no sense of “difference” between groups.  Unfortunately, as they grow up they will encounter and observe hostility.

What can we do to counter it? We can make sure to give our children experiences around other cultures.  City sports leagues and schools are a great place for this.  We also need to teach them, never to return evil for evil.  We can also teach them how to see the unique things in each culture.  Once a week in the residential homes we would try to have a night where we would eat foods from different countries, in an effort to learn about their customs.  This can even true of other religions. While we don’t agree or believe the same things we can always make a point to learn things from others, such as how they serve those around them or their total devotion to their religion.

Take the time to teach your children to appreciate the amazing diversity around them.

 

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Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! w/Julianna Guevara | Part 3 2013-09-25T15:02:24+00:00

Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! w/Julianna Guevara | Part 2

2013-09-24T20:36:40+00:00

Discussing Gay Marriage

This is an issue that can be dealt with even before questions come up.  Like we discussed yesterday it is important to lay a scriptural foundation for when the difficult questions are asked.  Just like sex outside of marriage the Bible is clear on this issue. In Genesis, the Bible states that a man must be united with his wife to become one flesh.  This is a spiritual, physical and emotional reference. God made us to “fit together” to become one.

One of the things we must teach our children is not tolerance but love. Love is seeing past things you may not agree with. We are not very good at “loving the sinner-hate the sin” sometimes because we tend to forget that we are all sinners in need of a Savior. It is easier to focus on the sins of others, then your own sins.

Secondly, we need to make our own marriages something that is to be desired. For the next generation to grow up seeing that we are we so in love with our spouse that our children can’t help but think, “I want that!”

Thirdly, we need to keep our home an environment that is always an open door for discussions, even the difficult ones.

Check back the rest of this week as we discuss more of some of the issues our kids will face.

 

As always listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic.

Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! w/Julianna Guevara | Part 2 2013-09-24T20:36:40+00:00

Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! w/Julianna Guevara | Part 1

2013-09-23T20:25:06+00:00

Raising Your Child In An Anti-Biblical Culture

Sadly, our children have to grow up in a world that is a lot different from when we were children. Today’s culture has moved past the point of gray areas when it comes to certain issues. There are many areas today that are not only “unfriendly” towards Christianity, but unbiblical.  A lot of us would love to shield our children from anything that we feel doesn’t match what scripture teaches. We can’t, however, raise our children in a bubble. That isn’t what Jesus would have us do. He prepared his disciples for ministry. We can’t send our children out into the world without being equipped. We have to teach them scripture, what it says and then help them process the tough issues. Obviously, we aren’t going to sit down with our toddler and discuss some of these things but we can lay a biblical foundation at that age.  This way when they come home from school, a friend’s or even see something thru a media source we can point them to the foundation already laid.

Check back this week as we continue this difficult but important discussion. We must prepare ourselves, in order to help our kids know what they believe so they can to minister to the world around them.

 

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Help! I Can’t Keep My Children in Tupperware! w/Julianna Guevara | Part 1 2013-09-23T20:25:06+00:00

Preparing Your Child for Peer Pressure | Part 5

2013-09-16T09:27:19+00:00

Helping Your Child Deal With Peer Pressure

Finally this week here are some verses that will help us when we face peer pressure as adult and as we train our children to make the right decision when facing negative pressure.

Romans 12:1&2 states, “Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship.  Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

2 Timothy 1:7 states, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.”

Joshua 1:9 states, “This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

Another great study is the life of Joseph.  Which can be found beginning in Genesis 37.  One of the main points to note is Genesis 39:6-10, Joseph stood up in the face of temptation.  His reason for the decision that he made was that he did not want to “sin against God.”  This was such an unpopular decision that it landed him in jail.  But it is such a great story to show that even if there are trials for making the unpopular decision God still has a plan for our life.

 

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on the topic of peer pressure.

Preparing Your Child for Peer Pressure | Part 5 2013-09-16T09:27:19+00:00

Preparing Your Child for Peer Pressure | Part 4

2013-09-16T09:26:01+00:00

Practicing Supervised Peer Pressure

There are several ways we can prepare our child for the battle of peer pressure.  The first is, as always, leading by example.  Do you set the example in front of your children of not conforming to peer pressure?  As your children get older process with and include them in some of your decision making.  Discuss with them why when everyone else is doing/buying this we as a family have make the decision to not.  Be the example in a culture that is self-absorbed, give to others and allow your children to observe and be a part.

Give them opportunities to practice making decisions about peer pressure even when they are young.  If they want something that costs more then you had planned to spend, whether it be something for school or gift for a birthday, because it is the more popular choice, allow them to contribute their money towards the purchase.  By doing this you allow them to feel that giving into peer pressure “cost” them something.

Keep in mind that family relationships are not a substitute for learning to deal with peer pressure because these are decisions that will have to be made most often when family is not physically there, such as on a college/high school campus or on a date.  Strong family relationships are however, the platform of strength, from which a child can feel confident when responding to negative peer pressure.  They will always know that there is someone who loves them and who is behind them cheering when the make the right choice even if it is unpopular.

 

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on the topic of peer pressure.

 

Preparing Your Child for Peer Pressure | Part 4 2013-09-16T09:26:01+00:00

Preparing Your Child for Peer Pressure | Part 3

2013-09-16T09:24:40+00:00

What Part Does A Parent Play in Peer Pressure

First we need to ask ourselves two questions.  Do we feel that peer pressure can have a negative impact on our children? Do we feel that peer pressure can have a negative impact on adult?  From what we have already discussed the answer should be a resounding yes! If children are not taught how to deal with peer pressure they not only can make decisions as teens that can affect the rest of their lives but they can make decisions as adults that can have just as severe of consequences.

Thankfully most teens when polled will still state that their parents are their number one influence.  It is our job to keep it that way.  Family cannot become little more then a “layover” before the next activity.  As we have discussed countless times management of our schedules is imperative so that family relationships can be maintained and deepened. Family must be the soil of relationship that the child is safe to grow in.  It must be a place of unconditional love, non-performance oriented love.

Without these family relationships, or if we become so busy that we neglect these relationships, children will look for a place to find acceptance.  That can be peers, social media, online gaming, or boy/girl friends.  Ask yourself who you want to be your child’s number one influence?

 

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Preparing Your Child for Peer Pressure | Part 3 2013-09-16T09:24:40+00:00

Preparing Your Child for Peer Pressure | Part 2

2013-09-16T09:23:04+00:00

Factors That Play A Part In Peer Pressure

To understand the factors in peer pressure we also need to see when it begins. Peer pressure actually begins as soon as a child begins interacting and observing other people.  It is amazing you can watch toddlers pick up behaviors from other toddlers such as taking a toy away from another child and saying mine, that is under the assumption that they are not observing this behavior in their parents.  Parents and other adults also have a huge influence on their children.  Small children are constantly observing learning and mimicking their parents and other adults.   So in a way this is “pressure” to “conform” to certain behaviors or mimicking because the behaviors are thought to be normal.

What factors affect a teens ability to resist temptation? A strong sense of self is the first.  Are they secure in who they are where another’s opinion will not cause them to cave into doing something they know/feel is wrong.  The second is a strong sense of family.  The support of family can be an amazing factor, a desire to not let other family members down. Also the knowledge that there will be support at home when I make the right decision even if it is unpopular.  Thirdly, faith can play a huge role.  When a child is grounded in what the Bible says not only as a list of rules but that those rules are there to protect their relationship with God and others it can have a major impact.  From this faith will be a knowledge that God has a plan for their life which can give the strength to say no to temptation. (Jeremiah 29:11)

Finally helping your child find a peer group that will share the same beliefs and values will help your child by exerting positive peer pressure.

 

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Preparing Your Child for Peer Pressure | Part 2 2013-09-16T09:23:04+00:00