Taking Them From Instant Gratification to Delayed Gratification | Part 5

Taking Them From Instant Gratification to Delayed Gratification | Part 5

Jan 31

The Benefits of Delayed Gratification

The lesson of delayed gratification causes us to be big picture thinkers.  The true great leaders have all had a big picture focus.  Abraham Lincoln was an amazing example of this.  He grew up in the wilderness, lost his mother at an early age and claimed “he knew how to read, write and cipher but not much more coming of age.”  He lost the senate race but somehow got the Republican ticket for the presidency.  Immediately upon winning several of the southern states seceded.  He received push back from all sides through a horrific war that ravaged our nation.  But through it all he never lost focus, our nation came out on the other side, and slavery was defeated.  He is considered one of the greatest presidents the United States has had.

If we want to raise leaders we have to raise big picture thinkers, to do this we must raise children who have learned delayed gratification.  It affects so many areas of life and can make the difference in failure and success.

 

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Taking Them From Instant Gratification to Delayed Gratification | Part 4

Taking Them From Instant Gratification to Delayed Gratification | Part 4

Jan 30

Setting The Example

To the responsible adult delayed gratification may be something that is not processed, but lived out even in small decisions. We don’t eat certain things, buy certain things, or do certain things for the purpose of bettering our future.  Process through some of your decisions, that set the example in delayed gratification, with your children especially as they get older.  Look for opportunities to include them in the process, explain why you choose not to eat out as much for example, or buy a new car as often. You can even include them in long-term projects so they can enjoy the reward of “plugging away” at something until the job is done.  This lesson can even give children the strength to cope with difficult situations in adulthood, for instance a hard season in a future marriage.  The reward is great when you have learned to slowly work on something to fix a problem, rather then simply throwing away and looking for something new.  Learning the lesson of delayed gratification may mean the difference between failure and success for your child.  Look for ways to set the example in your own life.

 

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Taking Them From Instant Gratification to Delayed Gratification | Part 3

Taking Them From Instant Gratification to Delayed Gratification | Part 3

Jan 29

Teaching Disciplines They’ll Need As Adults

There are several disciplines that our children will need to know for adulthood and these are all disciplines that involve delayed gratification.  The first is teaching chores. Having a child do chores helps to teach that they are a member of a family unit.  This may mean putting aside what they want to do for a while in order to contribute to the family. Click here for more from the weeklong series on chores. Second is education. Learning how to study is definitely a discipline in delayed gratification. This is imperative for a college student who must learn how to balance the social scene, sometimes a job, and their studies. This leads us to the third discipline, which is time management.  Maturity is learning to balance time well, sometimes choosing to do what I need to do over what I want to do.  Click here for our week long series on time management.  Teaching sexual purity isn’t a discipline that ends with marriage.  In order to stay faithful to a spouse our teens must be trained to handle the delayed gratification of sexual purity.  Click here for more on teaching purity to your children. Finally teaching your child how to handle their finances is a very important lesson in delayed gratification.  Teaching a child how to pass up spending on small items in order to save for a future big item is a great and valuable lesson.  Click here for more on teaching finances.  There are many areas that are critical for success as an adult, take the time to make sure your child is prepared by teaching delayed gratification.

 

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Taking Them From Instant Gratification to Delayed Gratification | Part 2

Taking Them From Instant Gratification to Delayed Gratification | Part 2

Jan 28

Where To Begin Teaching This

Once the decision has been made that this is an important area to add to the training process, where do we go next? One thing that needs to be looked at is where the child is at developmentally.  For young children this is an especially hard area because of their immaturity and short attention span.  So we must adjust our expectation to realistically train where they are.  For example, it is unrealistic to expect a toddler to sit and build an entire city with blocks. Anyone who has had a toddler knows that the favorite game with blocks is to knock them over.  So a very easy beginning lesson in delayed gratification is having them help build the tower, teaching them to wait until the end to knock it over.  Teaching delayed gratification using play is a great place to start.  We can utilize things like puzzles and games to teach this.  As the child ages we can slowly raise the expectation level, simple things like teaching a child not to interrupt others is a lesson in delayed gratification.  Take the time to look around for age appropriate lessons in delayed gratification. This can simply be utilizing things you do with your child already, just more intentionally.

 

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Taking Them From Instant Gratification to Delayed Gratification | Part 1

Taking Them From Instant Gratification to Delayed Gratification | Part 1

Jan 27

Why Is This Important?

The “instant pleasures” of life can have the potential to rob us of the “greater treasures” of life.  Learning delayed gratification helps a person invest now for their future.  It also helps teach how to make better decisions about the here and now, that I will be grateful for later on.  Learning the self-discipline of delayed gratification impacts, a teens ability to stay sexually pure until marriage, learning how to save money for the future, teaches a student to study now to reap the benefits later, and to plan ahead rather than live for the moment.

This is difficult because it doesn’t come naturally to us.  There is nothing in the current culture around us that teaches this discipline. We are a culture of instant gratification.  We don’t want to wait and feel that we shouldn’t have to wait.  Cultures past had consistent lessons in delayed gratification because they had to wait for everything from the growing of the crops for food, to the sun rising for light to begin their day.  Today’s parent has to be intentional to look for lessons in delayed gratification in order to teach this discipline to their children.  Check back the rest of this week as we look at how to teach this.

 

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