Your Words with the Negative Child
For every family there is either a child, or a stage for a child, who is more difficult to encourage. Some children just have a more difficult time accepting praise so they bite back. There are also times where a child is struggling through something and has difficulty expressing themselves. The difficult child or difficult stages of our child’s life, such as middle school, are the times that they need our verbal encouragement the most. It is so easy as parents to take it personally when our encouragement is blown off and we shut down. We need to constantly analyze ourselves to make sure that we are not taking our children’s attitudes or behavior personally. The expectation should be that our children will act like children. They are immature emotionally and will not handle things like adults.
We must go out of our way through the difficult seasons to encourage. Choose to go above and beyond with that child. Leave notes in their lunches or backpacks for them to find and on their mirror for when they get home. Sit on their bed at night and tell them one thing that you that made your proud of them that day. Force yourself to get in a routine of encouragement. We so often forget these important investments into our children in the busyness of life. They are worth the effort! Choose to take the time to verbally invest in your children!
Listen to today’s podcast for more ideas on how to verbally invest in your children.