What My Kids See In My Marriage | Part 4

What My Kids See In My Marriage | Part 4

Apr 30

Do They See Friendship?

Having a marriage relationship that lasts has several key ingredients, one of them being friendship. Do you enjoy time that you spend with your spouse? Is your spouse your best friend? It is easy for couples who are dating to be best friends because they spend so much time together and have common interests. There are times when life gets in the way for a marriage relationship and the friendship gets lost in the shuffle.   Click here for the series that can help if you feel like you are in a rut.

This is one of those areas of marriage that is so important for your children to see. Make sure that they can see you have fun together.

 

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What My Kids See In My Marriage | Part 3

What My Kids See In My Marriage | Part 3

Apr 29

Submission and Sacrifice

Submission almost seems like a four letter word in today’s culture of empowerment. However, in order to become a working unit we have look at the principles of submission and sacrifice. We are ok with the word “sacrifice” because we know that in order to be healthy we have to make sacrifices in the way we eat and exercise. In order to meet specific goals we have to be willing to sacrifice some of our wants and desires. As parents, we hopefully sacrifice our needs for the needs of our children. Why then do we have such a hard time sacrificing or submitting to put our spouse’s needs before our own? It may be that we have fallen into the trap of believing our spouse is the one that is there to meet our needs. Placing that expectation on your spouse is too huge an order for one person to fill. Jesus calls us to serve each other, especially those closest to us. He demonstrated this by washing the feet of those closest to Him.

Our children will learn submission and sacrifice by watching it in action.

 

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What My Kids See In My Marriage | Part 2

What My Kids See In My Marriage | Part 2

Apr 28

What Impacts Our View of Marriage

There are four major places that can influence how we see marriage. The first is the culture around us. For this next generation that may seem a bit grim as we look around at the divorce rates and the state of the marriage in our culture today. Another area that culture impacts is the cultural roles which we have been exposed to. Our personal view is the next thing that impacts how we go into marriage. How have dating relationships or interactions with the opposite sex shaped the way we come into marriage? Another major area, and the reason for this week’s topic is the familial impact on our marriage. We spend 18 or so years observing how our parents and grandparents live out their marriages. This plays a major role in our view of how marriage should be. Finally, God has set before us some how to’s for living out marriage and what Love should look like. We should make sure that regardless of what else has impacted our view of marriage, we are going to the creator of marriage to see His plan and design.

 

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What My Kids See In My Marriage | Part 1

What My Kids See In My Marriage | Part 1

Apr 27

Why It’s Important to Think About This

This is an area that many parents don’t take the time to process through. When my kids see my spouse and I interact, what do they see? What impression do they take away of what marriage is really like? Do they see us disagree in a healthy or unhealthy way? Do they see us always treat each other with respect? What do I say about my spouse when they are not around? Do they ever see us affectionate with one another? Do they know that we are a united front when it comes to parenting, we will always have each other’s back?

These are all such important questions to process through. Research shows that our marriage will not only impact our children’s future marriages but how they even perceive marriage in general. It is important to take time to look at the patterns in our marriage and what they are communicating to our children.

 

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Teaching my Child to Entertain Himself | Part 5

Teaching my Child to Entertain Himself | Part 5

Apr 24

Alone Time With God: Setting the Example and Teaching It