Mothers & Sons with Guest: Rosemary Barnes | Part 5

Mothers & Sons with Guest: Rosemary Barnes | Part 5

May 29

Willingness To Let Go

One of the most painful things for a mother is the letting go of a child.  The emancipation process for a son is vitally important, per Genesis 2:24, “the man shall leave his mother and father…”  The letting go of a son in preparation for adulthood, and ultimately marriage, is something that is more painful for a mom.  She will no longer, and should no longer, be the most important female in his life.  If this is not intentionally done a man will eventually marry a “mother” figure rather then a wife.  This is very detrimental to the marriage relationship.

It must be something that is gradually done from childhood on.  In childhood, we begin the emancipation process with allowing them to begin to make their own choices. High school allow them freedom with in the boundary of the rules set up and not hovering or taking their choices personally.  As boys grow into men she needs to understand the fact that, while she will always be his mother, she needs to “wean” the mothering and allow him to make his own decisions.  This is a very difficult and unnatural process, therefore, it must be a supernatural process. For an amazing example of this read 1 Samuel 1 and reread the story of Hannah.

 

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Mothers & Sons with Guest: Rosemary Barnes | Part 4

Mothers & Sons with Guest: Rosemary Barnes | Part 4

May 28

Be The Role Model For  Wife

We touched on this concept yesterday but our example will have a huge impact on who our son will marry.  We’ve all heard the phrase you marry your mother, this is how huge our responsibility is in how we role model.  We talked about yesterday role modeling qualities that we would like to see in our son’s spouse.  For those of us who are married we need to role model what it means to be a wife.

I have heard it said that the wife is the gatekeeper to her home.  It is her job to keep it a sanctuary for her family, a safe place.  Children also pick up on how we as spouses treat each other.  If a woman badmouths her husband or disrespects him in front of her children this can be a major blow to her son.  It can cause great conflict within him.   It is very important for a wife to role model love and respect with in a marriage.

Next week we will be discussing the importance of the relationship between mother and son when dad’s not around.

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Mothers & Sons with Guest: Rosemary Barnes | Part 3

Mothers & Sons with Guest: Rosemary Barnes | Part 3

May 27

Be The Role Model For Womanhood

There are many ways that we as mom can role model womanhood for our sons. We are the standard for what our sons  will compare other women too. That is a huge responsibility not to be taken lightly. We role model modesty, humility, nurture, love just to name a few. The way we dress as women not only impacts what our daughters deem as appropriate but also our sons. A hard concept to wrap our heads around as moms of little boys is, we need to process the qualities we want our son to look for in a spouse and exemplify those.  We need to  set the goal of being a Proverbs 31 woman not only for our husbands but for the sake of our sons observation.

 

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Mothers & Sons with Guest: Rosemary Barnes | Part 2

Mothers & Sons with Guest: Rosemary Barnes | Part 2

May 26

Do What’s Right Not Easy

One of the very rewarding things about the mother/son relationship is that a mother has the privilege to be her son’s first teacher.  She instills in her son his very first lessons.   Like we mentioned yesterday she teaches him the word “no”.  She also teaches the concept of cause and effect; he will begin to understand, when I choose to do this I earn a reward or consequence.  She also can teach him the meaning of unconditional love as she separates relationship and disciple.  For more on that click here.

Another valuable life lesson that a mother can instill in her son is to learn how to do things that he may not necessarily want to do but are important.  For example learning how to eat vegetables, how to clean up after himself, take naps or even share with others.  Being a consistent teacher is very hard work, but well worth the effort as you watch your child grow to be a responsible person!

 

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Mothers & Sons with Guest: Rosemary Barnes | Part 1

Mothers & Sons with Guest: Rosemary Barnes | Part 1

May 25

Worth The Sacrifice

The mother and son relationship has some very distinct aspects to it, which is why we are going to spend a two weeks discussing it.  A mother has a very important role to play in the life of her son.  There are many different types of moments through out the mother and son relationship some wonderful, some difficult and painful but all rewarding.

The beginning of the mother/son relationship is genderless bonding because she is his main caregiver.  Whether she works out of the home or not, she is his main nurturer and encourager.  A mother is the first to teach her son unconditional love.  She is also hopefully the one who begins to instill the meaning of word “no” as well as begin to place boundaries up in his life.

The difficulty of this relationship, which we will continue to explore through the week, is the fact that one of the most important roles that a mother plays is allowing for the slow emancipation of her son.  This begins at an early age where, if dad is at home he will slowly become his sons everything.  A son will want to emulate everything his father does.  And while this pulling away from mom is painful it is something that is necessary for her son to become the man he needs to be.

Check back through this week as we begin to dive into the mother/son relationship.

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