Monthly Archives: July 2015

Setting the Environment in Your Home | Part 5

2015-07-12T19:43:41+00:00

An Atmosphere of Respect Part 2

The second area of respect which affects our home environment, is how our children handle respect for authority.  This is such an important topic we have spent a week long series discussing it.  Click here to see that series.

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Setting the Environment in Your Home | Part 5 2015-07-12T19:43:41+00:00

Setting the Environment in Your Home | Part 4

2015-07-12T19:39:50+00:00

An Atmosphere of Respect Part 1

One of the major things that impacts the atmosphere of the home is the marriage. This can have a cyclical effect.  If the home isn’t a safe place this can have a negative impact on a marriage and in turn can have a negative impact on the home environment. This can cause a downward spiral of chaos. One of the biggest areas that can bring peace to the home is creating an environment of mutual respect. How we speak to each other can set the tone not only for the home but impact how our children speak to those around them, including authority figures. For more on the topic of respect in marriage, click here.

 

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Setting the Environment in Your Home | Part 4 2015-07-12T19:39:50+00:00

Setting the Environment in Your Home | Part 3

2015-07-07T17:10:56+00:00

Implementing Peace

Let’s face it life with children can be chaotic.  With small children it can be the chaos of behavior and the mess they bring.  With older children the constant business and shuttling them places can create a whirlwind in the home.  There are many things that can bring peace to the home.  The first is the parent just taking a deep breath.  Like we have said all week we are the thermometer if we are feeling chaotic our home will reflect that.  First and foremost, make sure that you are taking time to ground yourself with making your relationship with God a priority.  Carving out time in your day for prayer and studying the Bible is imperative.  There is a reason why it is called “quiet time”.   Secondly, something simple such as taking stock of how you speak to those in your house goes along way to bringing peace to your house.  Setting the example of keeping a kind tone when giving an instruction and not giving in to frustration, will go along way.  As well as making sure not to constantly nag.  Having a parenting plan or making sure to utilize the I.C.E. plan will help take care of having to hover over your children “reminding” them to do things.  Finally, take inventory of your house to see what aids in the chaos.  Is it constant noise build up? For example, music, plus gaming, plus piano practice may make for a feeling of chaos.  Another thing that may detract from peace is clutter.  Having a rule such as picking up after yourself or only having one type of toy out at a time, may help the feeling of chaos. Like we have said earlier this week, know your triggers as a parent and help create an environment of peace in your house.

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Setting the Environment in Your Home | Part 3 2015-07-07T17:10:56+00:00

Setting the Environment in Your Home | Part 2

2015-07-07T17:03:43+00:00

What Are the Things That Control Me?

We each have different temperaments, which means we bring different gifts and strengths to the parenting table.  This also means that different things impact our emotions.   It is important to know your triggers.  We also have to be careful not to allow ourselves to fall into the “well that’s just the way I am” trap.  I, for example, tend to be a “glass half empty” kinda person.  I have to be careful not to fall into the negativity trap.  Because of this I have to be careful not to allow things like social media to impact me emotionally.  It is easy to let people I don’t even know well or situations in the world that I have no immediate control over have an impact on how I feel.  If I let this have control of this I may be allowing an outside force be the thermostat for my home.  We each have a different trigger.   It could be things be material things (feeling the pressure to “keep up with the Joneses”), an entitlement mentality, work stressors, or even home relationships.
We have to be the driving force for the safe place of our home.  There are a couple helpful verses to focus on.  Philippians 4:6-8 say, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hears and your minds in Christ Jesus.  Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy- think about such things.”

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Setting the Environment in Your Home | Part 2 2015-07-07T17:03:43+00:00

Setting the Environment in Your Home | Part 1

2015-07-06T22:21:08+00:00

The Difference Between Thermometers and Thermostats

We have an amazing power and responsibility, as parents to set up the emotional environment of our homes.   We are the caretakers of our environment, so we need to make sure that we are the ones who are dictating the emotional atmosphere.  Children thrive in an environment which is structured but communicates calm, fun, and love.  Our homes are to be a safe place for the whole family to retreat from the battles of the outside world.    It is very easy to allow our stressors or even our children to impact our emotions and therefore the entire home’s atmosphere.
As a parent I have vividly observed my children’s reaction to my emotions.  When I am tense or stressed, not only is it easy for me to respond poorly to them, but they can even pick up on and react to how I am feeling.  I have also had teachers tell me that when they were having an off day emotionally, the classroom behavior went downhill.  We also need to be careful not to allow our children to dictate the environment.  We must be the thermostat of our homes; not the thermometer going up or down depending on the “temperature” around us.
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Setting the Environment in Your Home | Part 1 2015-07-06T22:21:08+00:00