Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 3

Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 3

Sep 30

How Did So Many Homes Go From Marriage-Centered to Child-Centered

One answer may be that many homes were not honestly marriage-centered.  Becoming one flesh and actually “doing” marriage is a difficult task.  Many couples, when they leave the honeymoon phase of their marriage relationship, begin to focus on their careers as a priority.  We can easily divvy up jobs and tasks and almost become strangers sleeping next to each other.   It is also easy to forget to continually pursue our spouse, to continue to deepen the friendship and intimacy.  If kids enter at this point it is easy to see how their needs become front and center and the marriage needs get placed on the back burner.

Even the strongest marriages will have to continually battle the tyranny of the urgent and fight to be consumed by the needs of children or paying the bills.  Children are an amazing blessing from God but a couple needs to remember that child rearing is just a season of their marriage.  A marriage that is going to last a lifetime needs time and input, even through those frenetic years of parenting.

Make the choice today to keep your marriage a priority.

 

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Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 2

Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 2

Sep 29

It’s The Training Ground For The Marriages of Your Children

For better or worse our marriage sets up our children’s expectations for their marriages. This is another important reason to make sure that the marriage relationship is the priority relationship in the home, after a relationship with God. Here are some areas to process through and make sure that your children are seeing Godly examples in, Biblical leadership and Biblical submission.  Do you and your spouse edify each other or tear each other down in front of your children? Do your children observe healthy conflict? Do your children see you having fun together? Can they see that you are still attracted to each other?  Do they see mommy and daddy go on dates and other things that would suggest that the relationship is a priority?

We have discussed some of the ways our marriages impact our children in our series Role Modeling Commitment In Your Marriage.  Click here to check out that series.

 

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Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 1

Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 1

Sep 28

Why It Is The Most Important

It is so easy to allow your marriage to fall on the back burner when you have children.  Why does this happen? There are a few reasons, first may be that the couple placed a higher priority on their careers so it was easy for children to fill that spot.  Secondly, life happens so fast and marriage takes time and effort.  So maybe the concept of the tyranny of the urgent takes over and we know that parenting needs to be a priority so we devote all of our time and energy to that.

It is so worth the time and work to maintain your marriage.   It’s God’s plan: Genesis 2:24-25 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. “ The primary relationship for the spouses, other than God, is the marriage relationship.  It is a launch pad for the next generation.  God created the family structure with the marriage as the foundation, a husband and a wife, two very different people becoming one – like concrete and steel – forming the inseparable foundation for the family to be built on. That’s why God hates divorce (Malachi) It is a representation of His love relationship with the church.  We have the privilege to live out God’s love for our children.  That is why it is worth putting in the time and effort to make it a priority.

 

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Preparing Your Child for Peer Pressure | Part 5

Preparing Your Child for Peer Pressure | Part 5

Sep 25

Helping Your Child Deal With Peer Pressure

Finally this week here are some verses that will help us when we face peer pressure as adult and as we train our children to make the right decision when facing negative pressure.

Romans 12:1&2 states, “Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship.  Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

2 Timothy 1:7 states, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.”

Joshua 1:9 states, “This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

Another great study is the life of Joseph.  Which can be found beginning in Genesis 37.  One of the main points to note is Genesis 39:6-10, Joseph stood up in the face of temptation.  His reason for the decision that he made was that he did not want to “sin against God.”  This was such an unpopular decision that it landed him in jail.  But it is such a great story to show that even if there are trials for making the unpopular decision God still has a plan for our life.

 

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Preparing Your Child for Peer Pressure | Part 4

Preparing Your Child for Peer Pressure | Part 4

Sep 24

Practicing Supervised Peer Pressure

There are several ways we can prepare our child for the battle of peer pressure.  The first is, as always, leading by example.  Do you set the example in front of your children of not conforming to peer pressure?  As your children get older process with and include them in some of your decision making.  Discuss with them why when everyone else is doing/buying this we as a family have make the decision to not.  Be the example in a culture that is self-absorbed, give to others and allow your children to observe and be a part.

Give them opportunities to practice making decisions about peer pressure even when they are young.  If they want something that costs more then you had planned to spend, whether it be something for school or gift for a birthday, because it is the more popular choice, allow them to contribute their money towards the purchase.  By doing this you allow them to feel that giving into peer pressure “cost” them something.

Keep in mind that family relationships are not a substitute for learning to deal with peer pressure because these are decisions that will have to be made most often when family is not physically there, such as on a college/high school campus or on a date.  Strong family relationships are however, the platform of strength, from which a child can feel confident when responding to negative peer pressure.  They will always know that there is someone who loves them and who is behind them cheering when the make the right choice even if it is unpopular.

 

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