Trust in Your Marriage | Part 1

Trust in Your Marriage | Part 1

Feb 29

Why This is Important

Trust is one of, if not the most, foundational principles for any relationship. For example, in a friendship if a friend has proven trustworthy, you would feel comfortable sharing a secret.  The more trustworthy the friend the more comfortable I feel sharing deeper things. If the friend proved untrustworthy and shared the secret, we wouldn’t share further.

We use this constantly in parenting.  It is important for a child to be trustworthy, this affects many areas for the parent/child.  If this is the case a parent can trust their word, but it allows for a parent to expand their boundaries.  But in a marriage relationship it can be a make it or break it issue. Trust is the foundation of the home.  It is foundational for intimacy.  If we feel we can trust our spouse, we feel they can be trusted with our deepest sense of self.  Check back the rest of this week as we unpack this important topic.

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Teaching Marriage to Your Children | Part 5

Teaching Marriage to Your Children | Part 5

Feb 26

The Fourth Leg: Intimacy

“Genesis 2:25  And the man and his wife were both naked and not ashamed.”

​This is not just physical intimacy ​but emotional intimacy. It is the freedom to be vulnerable. This means to be fully able to trust another person; to feel safe sharing your true self and accept each other without masks.

​But real intimacy can’t happen until the other three have been taken care of, first Severance, Commitment, Unity and then Intimacy.  ​Intimacy is the benefit of working on the first three. Remember, marriage takes work, and it all boils down to ​choosing to be married even in the difficult moments.  Decide to pursue this formula, sometimes circumstances force us to pull back and revisit the formula. Either way, make your marriage a priority, one you children will want to emulate!

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Teaching Marriage to Your Children | Part 4

Teaching Marriage to Your Children | Part 4

Feb 25

The Third Leg: Unity

Genesis 2:24 “…and they shall become one flesh.”
This week we have broken down Genesis 2:24-25 to reveal God’s plan for a solid marriage foundation. One that we can live out in front of and use to train our children. The word “become” in today’s verse would suggest a process. Becoming one flesh is not something that happens immediately in a marriage. Unity is something that happens over time if focused on and worked at. ​It’s taking two distinct identities ​blending them together into one purpose and goal. In Hebrew, the word that is used is for one here refers to a compound unity; two becoming one without losing their own identity. Two other places the word is used are, Deuteronomy 6:4, “Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one.” And ​Genesis 1:5, “​God called the light “day,” and the darkness He called “night.” And ​​there was evening, and there was morning, the first day.” The trinity and the joining of day and night to form a single day.
Two ingredients to becoming one flesh are sacrifice and a desire to do it for God. Sacrifice by laying down your needs, wants and desires in order to put your spouse before yourself. By placing God at the center of your relationship you automatically grow closer together. Think of a triangle. If both spouses are growing closer towards God at the top, or focal point of the triangle, then they are automatically growing closer to each other.

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Teaching Marriage to Your Children | Part 3

Teaching Marriage to Your Children | Part 3

Feb 24

The Second Leg: Commitment

Genesis 2:24 “… and shall cleave to his wife…”  Commitment is not something you do because you feel like it, commitment is something you choose to do.  Commitment to your marriage will not be tested in the easy days but the hard. Check out our week long series on commitment by clicking here.

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Teaching Marriage to Your Children | Part 2

Teaching Marriage to Your Children | Part 2

Feb 23

The First Leg: Severance

We discussed yesterday how God gave us a map to follow for His foundation for marriage. It can be found in Genesis 2:24-25. These verses lay out four principles for us. These four principles, like chair legs, are what we can build a strong marriage on. The first part of verse 24 states, “For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother…” ​Psalm 45:10 states it another way “Listen, O daughter, consider and give ear: Forget your people and your father’s house.” The first principle is severance. We don’t need to take this literally but we need to think through the things from our upbringing that we may need to cut away or not bring into our marriage. Are there any bad habits that we observed? Are there “gender roles” that worked for our parents but may not work for our relationship? We must take the time to sift through our attitudes and expectations that we bring into marriage from our past. Which are helpful and which are harmful? Things like family traditions can be helpful and enrich our new family but that is the reason they are there. If traditions are bringing strife it’s time to take a step back and evaluate.
Take time to process this idea of severance and be sure to focus on yourself, not your spouse, for the areas you may need to sever from your past.

Listen to today’s podcast and be sure to check back as we discuss the other three principles to building a marriage your children will want to emulate.