Being Married To A Different Person
While this may seem fairly obvious, it’s amazing how we fail to realize it on a day to day basis. We so easily forget that our spouse doesn’t react or think like we do. In fact there are times we are shocked by it. We are different personalities, genders, raised in different homes and most of the time we marry our opposite. This can make marriage difficult when our expectation is that our spouse will react or respond to things the way we do.
For this reason we have to put work into a marriage. It takes time and effort to truly know someone. Even then we must be willing to give each other grace and be willing to lay down self for the other person.
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Marriage In Our Modern Culture
Today’s culture creates a world of complex issues for marriage. On one hand because of technological advances we can gain access to many types of advice on marriage. We also have tools to communicate with each other instantly through many avenues. Both of these can be a blessing and a curse. We live today constantly distracted. It’s no longer just TV that is vying for our attention. Now we have all forms of social media and gaming at our fingertips. Social media brings up a whole new level of boundaries to discuss within the marriage. Click here to listen to podcast devoted to social media and marriage.
What do we do? In order to protect your marriage we need to make sure that we are setting aside time unplugged to focus on our spouse. Set aside time for communication. Make sure to make your marriage a priority in today’s culture with distractions pulling at us from every angle.
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Marriage Mirrors Our Relationship With God
One of the beautiful things about marriage is that one of it’s many purposes is to emulate the relationship between God and the church. The church is referred to the bride of Christ many times through scripture. Because of this our marriages are under attack. The enemy knows that an easy way to immobilize a family or Christian leader is to take down the marriage. Again this is such an important topic we have spent a week-long series on placing boundaries around your marriage to protect it. Click here to see that series.
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Another issue to address when discussing the reputation is the fact that some teens will attempt to defame each other using social networking sites. This is called cyber bullying. There is something that is different about cyber bullying from the usual form. There is certain anonymity to it. If you are on a social networking cite you can even set up an account with a fake name. This would allow the bully to be totally anonymous. What this means is that anyone and everyone could potentially be a bully. And statistics would show that it is a very common practice. Even the victims of traditional bullying can take part in this form.
Because this is such a common occurrence and such a part of teenage culture, we must make sure that we talk with our kids about it. When we set up the house parameters about internet we need to include the rules about cyber bullying. Discuss with your spouse what the consequences will be if your children are caught being mean too or defaming someone else on the internet.
Many parents may ask, what’s really the big deal with this issue? First and foremost there are countless scriptures about guarding your tongue and not allowing unwholesome or slanderous talk come out of your mouth, in this case fingers. But we also need to teach our children that not only is spreading lies wrong but spreading gossip about someone else is wrong as well. The second thing to keep in mind is that there have been children that have been so affected by cyber bullying that they have gone so far as to take their own life. Because of the seriousness of this we need to protect our children not only from being bullied but from being a part of bullying someone else.
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