Dealing with Holiday Stress to Your Marriage | Part 3

Dealing with Holiday Stress to Your Marriage | Part 3

Nov 30

It All Starts With A Marital Staff Meeting

Like so many things in marriage if we want to have a plan for the holidays to avoid unnecessary stress, it all starts with a staff meeting.  A scheduled time where the two spouses can sit to discuss the expectations, plan and purpose behind the holiday season.  The easiest place to start is the purpose.  What is the purpose behind the holiday? While creating traditions and memories for our children are important they are not the purpose for the season.  Neither is meeting my or my spouse’s needs or expectations.  The purpose of the whole season is to celebrate the fact that God intervened in our lives so drastically that He sent His Son as a baby.  This whole season should be pointing to the gift that God gave to us 2,000 years ago. In the coming weeks we will discuss how to have family traditions that help children understand the meaning of Christmas.  An annual staff meeting to remind us of the purpose will help us to not feel the pressures and the stresses of this season.  Make sure to put one on your calendar!

 

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Dealing with Holiday Stress to Your Marriage | Part 2

Dealing with Holiday Stress to Your Marriage | Part 2

Nov 29

The In-law Factor

There are many things that can contribute to stress with in-laws even if you have a great relationship.  The first is growing up in different homes spouses each have a set of traditions that were set up by in-laws. This sets up expectations for how the holidays should go.  I remember the first time I went to visit my husbands family for Christmas.  Even though they have a fantastic set of traditions that were very fun, they were so different from mine growing up I remember thinking at the end of festivities “hmm it doesn’t really feel like Christmas.”

Another thing that can add to the stress is in-laws expectations.  Where will the family spend the holidays and how will they be divided up?  We need to process who is in charge of this holiday, parents, my competitive nature or my subliminal desire to escape into the season? Not only that but what is the purpose of the celebration? The next few days we will be looking at how we effective prepare for these stressors.

 

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Dealing with Holiday Stress to Your Marriage | Part 1

Dealing with Holiday Stress to Your Marriage | Part 1

Nov 28

 Why The Holidays Are So Stressful

Ah, the holidays! It’s ironic that a time that is supposed to bring such warmth and joy can create such disappointment, tension and stress within a marriage.  We are going to spend this week breaking down why this is and what we can do to prevent this from happening in our own lives.

The first thing that can cause this stress is our expectations.  Is our focus what we expect to get, even if it is an experience, rather then what we can give others? The second area that can cause stress is In-laws. Thirdly, finances can bring major stress especially during this time of the year.  Fourthly, if we are not careful competition to have and give the best can create stress. Lastly there is the pressure of a crazy schedule during the holidays, with parties, church events ect. crowding our calendar.  Each of these areas can cause stress in normal times of the year but can heap immense stress as they seem to all be compounded over the holidays.

Check back as we cover some of these topics in more detail, as well as how to be proactive to guard against these stressors.

 

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Raising a Grateful Child | Part 4

Raising a Grateful Child | Part 4

Nov 25

Teaching Gratitude Through the Christmas Season

Choose to continue the momentum that you have built training your children in gratitude through the holiday season.  Christmas can be a difficult time for our children to have a grateful heart.  There are millions of dollars being spent this season on advertising to convince us that we need things that we don’t have.

One way to continue the momentum is by serving others.  Continue to create excitement for your family service project.  Look for other places you can serve others and include your children.  Offer to help an older woman or a woman with small children, load their groceries into their car.  Have your children help you babysit for a couple with small children so they can get out during this busy season.  Have your children help bake cookies to take to the neighbors.  There are many ways to serve others we just have to make that our focus and wait for the opportunity.  You can even make that a game with your children, who can spot an opportunity to serve first.

Another thing we can do as a family is continue our “I am grateful for list”. Every night before bed or at the dinner table, each family member can say one thing that they are thankful for.  Continue your focus on gratitude through out the Christmas season.

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Thanksgiving Special

Thanksgiving Special

Nov 24

The Story of Squanto

Listen to today’s podcast to hear the story of the first Thanksgiving.