Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 2

Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 2

Jan 31

Understanding Your Spouses Perspective

There is a choice we have to make in any relationship but especially in marriage, and that is choosing to understand the other person’s perspective. We are going to have very different outlooks on life. There are gender differences which will cause us to see things differently. We also have differences in personality as well as different communication styles. To further complicate the situation we tend to marry our opposite in these areas. Morning people marry night people, communicators marry non-communicators and introverts marry extroverts to name a few. God intentionally put us with people who are our opposite to smooth out the rough edges, allow us to be an effective team and be more well rounded and prepared then just one of us alone. So instead of getting annoyed that our spouse doesn’t do things the same way we do, we need to embrace it. Even take it a step further and try to see things from their perspective. Friends take the time to understand each other. The amazing thing is a lot of the ways we are opposite may not have been revealed until after we were married. Some call this God’s sense of humor but in reality it’s His brilliance. We get to spend a life time working to better understand the one He has given us. The relationship will only get stale and old if we give up the attempt to better understand and serve our spouse. Choose to see things from your spouses point of view and take that step to being a better friend.

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Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 1

Becoming Your Spouse’s Best Friend | Part 1

Jan 30

Choosing To Be Your Spouses Best Friend

In order to become best friends, we need to make this relationship a top priority. It’s easy when life happens, children enter the picture and stress creeps in to allow marriage to get place on the back burner. If we are not careful then years may go by and we may look at our spouse and realize that we are married to a stranger. We need to take the time to input into our marriage through all the stress and chaos so that we are able to grow together. This enables to to become one flesh.
Jesus tells us in Matthew 22:37-39 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ As many times as I hear this verse it’s such a great reminder that our closest neighbor is our spouse. If we are not choosing to love them then how can we expect the love to appropriately trickle down to our children then those around us. Check back the rest of this week as we discuss tips for pursuing a best friend relationship with your spouse.

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Teaching Kids Time Management | Part 5

Teaching Kids Time Management | Part 5

Jan 27

The Series Wrap Up

As we wrap up this week discussing training children in time management, there are two important facts to remember.  In order to be consistent, time management training is something that both parents need to be on the same page with.   This means that there needs to be discussion time or a parental staff meeting as you begin to decide on and implement a plan.

The second is that if we as parents are consistent with our plan, rewards and consequences the choice to follow the plan is placed on our child’s shoulders.  If we are not consistent then we the parents become the consequence.  With the plan clearly communicated to our child and consistently enforced it is easy to show the child that they are ultimately choosing the reward or the consequence by their behavior.  It removes us from the equation and allows us to be the unemotional enforcers of our plan. Both of these facts are true in many areas of parenting and remind us how important it is to have a plan in place.

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Teaching Kids Time Management | Part 4

Teaching Kids Time Management | Part 4

Jan 26

Giving Your Child Control Over Their Time

In the parenting we need to practice the ICE plan, instruct, consequence, and exercise.  When we are training our kids to use their time wisely it is no different.  The past few days we have been discussing the different ways to instruct your children by helping them to manage their time.  Next we need to set up the consequences both positive and negative for time management, meaning rewards for consistently sticking with the plan and what will be done if the child strays from the plan. As the child grows we can give them more and more control over their own time management, which is the exercise in the ICE plan.

Again as with money management, we can look at our goals for training our children in time management and work backwards.  Ultimately as our children leave our home we want them to be prepared to have control over their time, especially when facing all the time wasting temptations on a college campus. We need to give them room to practice managing their time while they are still under our roof in high school.  An easy place to do this is a teen’s bedtime. Keep in mind that a bedtime is different from a curfew.  You can slowly back a bedtime up until ultimately there is no bedtime.  As long as a teen is keeping up with their school work and morning family responsibilities then they can continue without a bedtime.   If they are having a hard time getting up with their alarm in the morning then the bedtime can be reinstated.  The important thing is to allow your children to practice time management while you are still there to help them with it.

 

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Teaching Kids Time Management | Part 3

Teaching Kids Time Management | Part 3

Jan 25

Teaching Kids to “Bank” Time

Teaching children to manage their time is such an important life skill that will help them to succeed.  One of the areas to help them learn how to do this, is the concept of banking time.  This concept can be the most useful when tackling a big project.  For small children we can use their chores to teach them this lesson.  If a child learns to pick up their toys or does a little bit every day then cleaning their room is not a big deal.  If they do not pick up after themselves then cleaning their room will big a huge job.  The same applies for older children and teens when having to complete a school project or book report.  One of the most important things these projects teach is how to budget your time.  If we help our children break a project down into bite size pieces and then hold them accountable we will save our family from a very stressful time the weekend before the project is due.  We are also teaching our children how to handle big tasks with out it stopping their lives.  This is a very important life skill to learn for college, the work place, and even for simple household management.

 

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