Those Difficult Parent/Child Discussions | Part 2

Those Difficult Parent/Child Discussions | Part 2

Feb 28

Sex Questions

Like we discussed yesterday and many times previously we want to be the ones that our children come to with their questions.  It is our job as parents to “train them up in the way they should go” this means that we cannot leave the difficult topics and questions for some one else to answer.

Because of the world around them it is amazing the questions our children come up with and at younger ages today.  Especially when it has to do with sexuality.  We must be prepared for these questions and control our emotions when they are asked.  We cannot give the answer, even though we may think it, wait until your older.  When we leave these important questions unanswered we leave them vulnerable to whoever will answer and usually that means peers.  If a difficult question throws you off instead of reacting shocked, its ok to say “because this is a really important topic why don’t you let me think about it and we’ll talk before you go to bed.” That way you have time to process how to answer and to think through if there are any deeper questions underlying.

For more insight on the topic of teaching your kids about sexuality check out our previous series on Putting Sexual Purity Into Your Parenting Curriculum as well as today’s podcast.

 
Those Difficult Parent/Child Discussions | Part 1

Those Difficult Parent/Child Discussions | Part 1

Feb 27

The Questions Your Child Has But Doesn’t Know To Ask

Children are innately curious creatures.  Ask any mom of a toddler and they will tell you how they spend their day answering the seemingly limitless amount of questions.  Why, or in my son’s case, what happened? At some point though if we are not careful they stop asking questions.

As parents it is our job to make sure that we are open and available for our children to ask questions to.  It is very easy to quickly answer a question and continue on with what we are doing.  Often these are moments where our children want to know something deeper and either don’t know how to ask it or are feeling us out for how we will respond.  Take the time to truly listen to what your children are saying and look for opportunities to draw up that underlying question.

Remember we want to constantly do things that will open the lines of communication with our child and reinforce that we will always be a safe place for them to come with questions, even the hard ones.

 

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic.

 
Getting Your Husband Engaged in the Parenting Process | Part 4

Getting Your Husband Engaged in the Parenting Process | Part 4

Feb 23

Special Daddy Times

Another idea to encourage your husband in his parenting is setting aside time for special daddy “dates”.  This can be for both genders but can be especially important for dads and daughters.  Growing up both my brother and I got to have breakfast with dad once a week on alternating weeks.  Then as I got older once a month dad would take me out on a daddy date.  This was where we would go out to dinner sometimes even to a nice place.  He would always model for me how I should expect to be treated by guys by opening doors and getting my chair.  These were always fun times that helped to set my expectations for the future.

There were several other times that worked well for his busy schedule where he could spend time with us.  One time that worked was at bedtime.  Some nights he would  sit on the edge of our beds and just talk.  He would make a point to do this to spend time with us especially if one of us had gotten in trouble earlier.  It would restore relationship and communicate that we were important to him.

Another time that worked for our family growing up was dad would take us or pick us up from school a couple days a week.  It was always a highlight the days we would see his car in the carpool line.  He choose to make those times special and memorable by doing things like having a pizza waiting for us in the car on a hard day or sometimes we would stop for slushies.

Find what fits with your families schedule but make sure that you take the time to fit in those special daddy times with the children.  Be assured it will impact them into adulthood!

 

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Getting Your Husband Engaged in the Parenting Process | Part 3

Getting Your Husband Engaged in the Parenting Process | Part 3

Feb 22

Drawing Dad in as The Children Grow Up

It’s never too late for dad to get more involved in their children’s lives.  One easy place for dad to have an influence is spiritually.  There are many ways that dad can be the spiritual leader in the home.  A great way for dad to lead is by doing family devotions in the morning.  This may sound like a daunting task but it can be as simple as reading a few Bible verses as a family and then praying together at the end of breakfast before everyone goes out the door.  There are even devotionals that can be read which take a verse and explain it age appropriately.  Keep in mind that it doesn’t have to be a small sermon everyday just something simple.

What mom can do is constantly encourage her husband.  Never underestimate the power of a “thanks for doing that” or a small encouraging word. Many times we as women spend more time nitpicking what our husband don’t do then encourage them when they step out and do something for us.  Choose to be an encourager!

 

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Getting Your Husband Engaged in the Parenting Process | Part 2

Getting Your Husband Engaged in the Parenting Process | Part 2

Feb 21

Engage Him Early In The Child’s Life

One of the ways that we as moms help our husbands get involved in the parenting process is by getting them involved early.  If a man can be involved in the birth process and very involved in the first few days at home, it will help him feel more and more competent with an infant.   Even for first time moms who have prepared themselves those first few days home with a new baby can feel overwhelming.  Choose to partner with your husband and learn together.  This is where you may need to set boundaries up with other family members and friends as you learn through this.  As a mom is recovering it is wonderful when family steps up to help.  Set up guidelines for this time where a new daddy can bond with the baby as mom is resting.  Maybe other family members can help with meals, laundry, cleaning and older children giving dad this time with baby as well.

Moms sometimes unintentionally sabotage their spouses efforts when they try to do everything. Even though they may feel they are more competent, moms need to allow their husband to be involved and give him a chance to learn as well. Some may need to take it a step further and invite their husband to be involved.  Ask him to help with a diaper change or bath.  Allowing him to enjoy these early days helps set the stage for involvement later on.

 

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic.