Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 3

Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 3

May 31

How Did So Many Homes Go From Marriage-Centered to Child-Centered

One answer may be that many homes were not honestly marriage-centered.  Becoming one flesh and actually “doing” marriage is a difficult task.  Many couples, when they leave the honeymoon phase of their marriage relationship, begin to focus on their careers as a priority.  We can easily divvy up jobs and tasks and almost become strangers sleeping next to each other.   It is also easy to forget to continually pursue our spouse, to continue to deepen the friendship and intimacy.  If kids enter at this point it is easy to see how their needs become front and center and the marriage needs get placed on the back burner.

Even the strongest marriages will have to continually battle the tyranny of the urgent and fight to be consumed by the needs of children or paying the bills.  Children are an amazing blessing from God but a couple needs to remember that child rearing is just a season of their marriage.  A marriage that is going to last a lifetime needs time and input, even through those frenetic years of parenting.

Make the choice today to keep your marriage a priority.

 

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Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 2

Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 2

May 30

It’s The Training Ground For The Marriages of Your Children

For better or worse our marriage sets up our children’s expectations for their marriages. This is another important reason to make sure that the marriage relationship is the priority relationship in the home, after a relationship with God. Here are some areas to process through and make sure that your children are seeing Godly examples in, Biblical leadership and Biblical submission.  Do you and your spouse edify each other or tear each other down in front of your children? Do your children observe healthy conflict? Do your children see you having fun together? Can they see that you are still attracted to each other?  Do they see mommy and daddy go on dates and other things that would suggest that the relationship is a priority?

We have discussed some of the ways our marriages impact our children in our series Role Modeling Commitment In Your Marriage.  Click here to check out that series.

 

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Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 1

Making Your Marriage the Key Relationship in the Family | Part 1

May 29

Why It Is The Most Important

It is so easy to allow your marriage to fall on the back burner when you have children.  Why does this happen? There are a few reasons, first may be that the couple placed a higher priority on their careers so it was easy for children to fill that spot.  Secondly, life happens so fast and marriage takes time and effort.  So maybe the concept of the tyranny of the urgent takes over and we know that parenting needs to be a priority so we devote all of our time and energy to that.

It is so worth the time and work to maintain your marriage.   It’s God’s plan: Genesis 2:24-25 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame. “ The primary relationship for the spouses, other than God, is the marriage relationship.  It is a launch pad for the next generation.  God created the family structure with the marriage as the foundation, a husband and a wife, two very different people becoming one – like concrete and steel – forming the inseparable foundation for the family to be built on. That’s why God hates divorce (Malachi) It is a representation of His love relationship with the church.  We have the privilege to live out God’s love for our children.  That is why it is worth putting in the time and effort to make it a priority.

 

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Mothers and Sons When Dad Is Not Around | Part 5

Mothers and Sons When Dad Is Not Around | Part 5

May 26

Be Content With What You CAN Do

It is easy as a single parent to get overwhelmed at the parenting task before you.  One of the things to do when this happens is to focus on all the things that you can do as a single parent.  One of those things is finding a mentor.  This is someone who you can lean on even set up a weekly coffee/ lunch time to have someone to bounce of parenting ideas with.  This must be a woman that you trust and someone who is very Godly, so that you know you are going to be getting wise godly counsel.  The next area that you can look for support is family.  Many family members would be more then willing to watch the kids, while mom spends a little bit of sanity time by herself, even if it is grocery shopping.

Finally and most importantly the person who you can lean on most for comfort and support is our Heavenly Father.  It is amazing that the One who can give is the most comfort is often the One we go to last. Daily choose to give your situation and your children to God.  Make it a daily absolute that you are finding time to spend in prayer and in scripture! Remember He knows about our circumstances, feels our pain and loves our children even more then we do!

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Mothers and Sons When Dad Is Not Around | Part 4

Mothers and Sons When Dad Is Not Around | Part 4

May 25

Don’t Depend on Him For Your Self-Esteem

One thing that we have reiterated several times on parenting today is that we cannot allow our self-esteem as parents to be wrapped up in our children. If our emotions are tied to their performance then we cannot discipline properly or be objective. This is very true for the single mother.  She cannot allow her self worth as a mother be tied to how her children are doing. Often times if a son isn’t doing well it is easy for a mom to beat herself up. On the other hand she also can not push him hard finding her self- worth through his success. She needs to remove the emotion from it in order to get proper perspective. Click Here to see our previous week on the topic of performance and parenting.

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