mother - daughter listening iStock_000000708861XSmall“I know my child needs to learn how to express her feelings.  I know I need to hear her heart.  I know we need to talk.  But I don’t know where to begin.”

This question was so well phrased.  Everyone does need to learn to communicate. Those that don’t will not be able to develop meaningful relationships.  Texting is convenient but it isn’t really communicating.  It’s just messaging.

Communication between two people takes time and developing the ability to communicate takes even more time.

Question: When is the time your child can practice expressing himself?

Are there set times in the life of your child when he or she knows they can get your ear rather than get a lecture?  Learning to speak is a minimal part of parent-child communication.  Learning to listen is the most important part.

When you put them to bed at night, do you take time to get in bed with them and listen?  When you drive together in the car, do you turn the phones off and listen.  Do the children really know you want to listen to them?  If your daughter doesn’t know you want to hear from her she’ll most likely find a boyfriend to listen… and his motives will be different.

My dear brothers and sisters, be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.

(James 1:19  NLT)

Tomorrow: What do I do when they won’t talk?