Distractions help relieve the pressure

One of the best parts of fishing with a child has nothing to do with catching fish.  If I said to my son, “let’s go sit somewhere and talk for two hours” I might have to tie him to a chair.  But if I suggested fishing, or putting a model car together or any other hobby that would put us together, the results were much more lasting then fishing.

There’s something about keeping the hands occupied that frees up the heart and mouth of a child to communicate.  Use a distraction to open the child up.

My son and I spent a half-dozen Tuesday nights putting a model aircraft carrier together. He was only nine, but that’s when the questions about sex came out. We we’re looking at each other. We were focusing on the plastic hull of the ship we were building. That’s when he felt safe to talk.

I know we were there to build the model. When we were finished building the model we decided to put a firecracker in it and blow it up on the lake behind our house. That distraction also blew up the communication barriers.