Love is when somebody loves people. ~Samuel, age 3
The second way we teach trustworthiness is by modeling. As a parent, our actions are always under the microscope. Children are watching to see what we do and how we handle situations. One of the easy ways to communicate trustworthiness is to mean what we say. For example, when I say “no” do I mean “no” or do I mean “no… until you whine, complain, and beg until I change my mind.” It actually creates a sense of security when a child knows they will not be able to manipulate me into changing my mind.
When I say “I will be there” can my child look out with confidence and see me, on time, sitting front and center. Consistency communicates that I can be trusted. When I am consistently unable to follow through and make excuses for my behavior, children learn quickly that I cannot completely be relied upon. Even though this lesson may be taught unconsciously, we need to be aware that it is still being taught. In our busy lives and schedules it is easy to over look this and excuse it away. But because of our responsibility to our children we have to constantly be aware of what we are teaching.