Once the phone call has been made to the chaperoning parent of the party and the questions have been asked, it’s time to elevate your teen to the role of “parent-for-a-night”.
“Ashley,” the parent can begin, “I won’t be going to this party so you have to represent me by taking care of Ashley.”
The baffled teen will say, “What are you talking about, Dad?”
“Since I’m not there with you at this party, Honey, you have to be my substitute and decide if and when it is time to leave the party.
Explaining that you will be there at 10:30 to pick them up, but if at any time any of the following things on the list happens call and you will come early to get them.
- If the parents chaperoning the party disappear, call me.
- If you feel uncomfortable, call me.
- If there are any drugs or alcohol (even with just one other kid, because that means the parents aren’t really chaperoning), call me.
- Any kids making out, call me.
**Add your own things to this list.
“Honey, you are representing me tonight. I’m counting on you to treat yourself like you are worth making that call if something on our list happens. To help you I will be showing up a little early to pick you up and I will come inside the house … all the way in. If anything on the list is taking place and you didn’t call me, it will show me you aren’t ready to be my substitute. It will be thirty-days before you go anywhere. Then we’ll try again.”
This is a great opportunity to train a teen to step up to their peers and make the call. They can even blame it on their parent.
If we don’t train them how to treat themselves with respect who will? If we don’t train them how have the courage to walk out of a bad party who will? If we don’t train them how to walk out of a bad party how will they ever walk out of a bad date?
Parties give parents the opportunity to train the child to handle peer pressure.