How Competition and Performance Impacts a Child’s Self-Esteem
We discussed earlier this week that our self-esteem is determined by answering the question of whose we are. If that is the case we need to look at what He created us to be. He made us human beings not human doings. Our self worth cannot be established by what we do. This is an important lesson to teach our children early on.
We have also spent time discussing how to help their self-esteem by communicating that our love is not attached to our child’s performance. How do we guard them from finding their self-esteem through all of the extra curricular activities in their lives that society would deem important? One way is to teach them the art of loosing. We need to show them that it’s not about the win but the effort you put in. This is such an important lesson to learn early on because if not our children will be looking for that next “win” even in adulthood. What we do, or don’t do, doesn’t define who we are. At the end of the day what we do needs to be left on the field. Our gaze needs to be upward focused on the day where we can hear “Well Done” from our Heavenly Father.
Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on your child’s self-esteem.