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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #28

2018-03-15T16:48:52+00:00

#28 Applaud Effort and Good Choices

It is very easy for us as parent to get very results oriented, when we need to be process oriented.  We are raising children to BECOME adults.  We cannot have expectations that they will always make the perfect decision/action/ emotion in a situation.  This is why it is imperative that we applaud when they do make a good choice and make an effort to do the right thing.  We cannot simply applaud what we think the end result should be.  We spent a whole week discussing this topic to check it out, click here.

 

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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #28 2018-03-15T16:48:52+00:00

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting # 26

2018-03-15T16:48:11+00:00

#26 = Let Them Observe You – Live Out Your Marriage

A great concept I read in a book once was the fact that our marriage is our first ministry.  It’s not ministering to those in need around us, caring for our children, although both of those are important.  It is out of our marriage that all other ministries flow forth. Jesus in commissioning His disciples told them to go to “Jerusalem, Judea and Samaria,then to the ends of the earth.  (Acts 1:8) This is why we should first serve our spouse as our first ministry, then our children, then those around us.  If the marriage/family relationships are rocky it can steal focus from other ministry opportunities around us.  This is why allowing your children to observe how you minister to each other as spouses is vitally important to them, for their future.  We actually spent the entire month of June on the topic of marriage.  To check out those series click hereyou can also see the whole month just by scrolling back to the beginning of June. 

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic as well.

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting # 26 2018-03-15T16:48:11+00:00

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting # 25

2018-03-15T16:47:46+00:00

#25 = Let Them Observe You – Live Out Your Faith

We have mentioned countless times that one of the ways our children learn is by observing us.  One area in particular that we can really teach them through our example is our faith.  Trying to explain such an ethereal subject to a child can be difficult but they can learn the concept through our actions and faith lived out.  We touched on this topic previously in our series, Training Up A Godly Child.  Click Here to check it out.

 

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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting # 25 2018-03-15T16:47:46+00:00

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting # 24

2018-03-15T16:47:15+00:00

#24 = Get Out There With Them – In Their Cyber Space

It is important to get to know a very particular area of your child’s world and that is cyber space.  This is a new arena for parenting because no other generation has had the benefits of the learning tools at their fingertips, as well as the dangers that come along with it.  We spent two series on this topic specifically to check out the series called Your Child’s Privacy vs. Their Protection, click here.  We also did a series titled, Cyber Bullying, click here for that series.

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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting # 24 2018-03-15T16:47:15+00:00

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #22 and #23

2018-03-15T16:47:02+00:00

#22 = Get Out There With Them – Be Where They Are
#23 = Get Out There With Them – Show Up at Parties

It is very important to get into your child’s world and be able to observe what is going on around them.  You  also have the opportunity to observer who they are allowing to influence them, as well as how your children interact with others.

One of these areas is parties.  Take the time to create a game plan for how your family will handle parties during the preteen/teen years.  Check out our previous series on the topic by clicking here.

 

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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #22 and #23 2018-03-15T16:47:02+00:00

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #20 and #21

2018-03-15T16:46:37+00:00

#20 and #21- Read and Read Them The Word

One of the most important things you can do educationally for your children is take the time to read to them.  You can start this process even when they are infants.  Reading opens up worlds to children by allowing them to develop their imagination.  A great time to do this is at naptime or bedtime.  Even with older children giving them times to read for fun, not just what is assigned for school, is important.

Another thing that is important for the family is to take the time to do family devotions. This may sound like a daunting task but it can be as simple as reading a few Bible verses as a family and then praying together at the end of breakfast before everyone goes out the door.  There are even devotionals that can be read which take a verse and explain it age appropriately.  Keep in mind that it doesn’t have to be a small sermon everyday just something simple. Taking time out to read your children the Word of God is very important for their spiritual development.

Listen to today’s podcast for more on these important topics.

 

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #20 and #21 2018-03-15T16:46:37+00:00

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #19

2018-03-15T16:46:19+00:00

#19-Serving Others (We Are Here To Serve Mom)

One thing that Dad did a great job teaching us to do was serve our mom.  Most of our house-hold chores were things that would help her out and serve her.  He did a great job leading by example in this area.  He was always of the mindset that mom made dinner so it was our job to serve her and clean up the kitchen.  It was such a great lesson that taught us several things.  First it taught us how to serve.  Second it taught us that that role is to be respected and revered not taken advantage of.  Thirdly it taught my brother how a woman was to be treated and taught me how I needed to be treated one day as a wife and mother.

Family is a great place to learn how to serve each other and a perfect person to begin serving is mom.  As a mom sometimes we can be frustrated with this area.  We can easily think that’s great but that never happens in my family; or we can think I’m glad my kids are trying to serve but that just means more work for me later.  First we have to be willing sometimes to ask for help when we need it. We also need to realize that sometimes the lesson of learning to help or serve someone else is more important than the fact that you may be able to do the job more quickly and efficiently.

Click Here for the link to our series on teaching your child to serve.

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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #19 2018-03-15T16:46:19+00:00

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #18

2018-03-15T16:46:02+00:00

#18- Listen

Listening is something that is imperative to parenting on several levels.  It is important that we listen to our children, that we listen to our spouses in order to work as a parenting team, and that we train our children up in listening skills.  The skill of listening is something that can make or break their future employment as well as their future marriage.  It is another area that we have spent a whole week discussing, click here to check out “The How To’s of Listening.”

And as always listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic.

 

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #18 2018-03-15T16:46:02+00:00

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #17

2018-03-15T16:45:43+00:00

# 17- Date Your Child

Something that you can do even when your children are small to help prepare them for future dating is taking them out on dates yourself.  This one on one time can help to serve many purposes for their future.

Even at a young age you can begin to instill in them how to show respect to members of the opposite sex.  For instance, if a father is taking out his young daughter, he can open doors for her ect.  If a mother is taking out her son, she can teach him how to open doors for her and begin to train him how to be a gentleman.

As years go by, maintaining these special times can set the stage for awesome communication.  Parents often wonder how they can communicate with their teens.  Consistently having a weekly “date” is a perfect way to keep open doors of communication…especially if this has been established from a young age.  See, your kids are never too young to begin this training.

Listen to today’s podcast for more on this topic.

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #17 2018-03-15T16:45:43+00:00

The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #16

2018-03-15T16:45:29+00:00

#16-Have Fun

It is so easy in parenting to get caught up in life and simply forget to have fun! This seems to happen right when we need to focus on having fun the most.  Either parents are stressed over a situation, having to really focus on a parenting issue with a child, or the family is really busy.  These are the times to make sure that you are taking time out for fun.  During crazy or stressful times for the kids in the residential program at Sheridan House, we would make sure to surprise them every so often with something fun or silly.  It would be something as simple as waiting for the van to pull in from school with a bucket filled with water balloons.  It can be something silly like that which only takes five minutes out of the schedule to communicate fun.

Kids, even our teens in residential care, will pretty much always get into a fun and silly surprise.  Whether it’s taking the long way home from school to hit up a dollar menu for a milkshake or a bucket of water balloons, put fun back into the routine.  We can’t forget that after all we are raising children, take time out for fun.

 

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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #16 2018-03-15T16:45:29+00:00