Why Don’t We Like Conflict?
When the word conflict is brought up, it can bring with it many different emotions. Some will avoid conflict at all costs and others like to argue just for arguing sake. Disagreements can be healthy in a marriage if handled appropriately. We cannot go into conflict competitively always out to win the argument. There are even times when we need to take a step back and agree to disagree for the sake of peace. What do we do, however, with parenting issues? Most of these issues have to have a middle ground between parents so they can be on the same page. James 1:19 tells us to “be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger.” We must apply these principles to our parental staff meetings when there are areas of disagreement. If we take a step back and listen to each other, we may realize that ultimately we are agreeing on the goal for this parenting issue and all we have to work out is the implementation.
Our focus must not be that either of us “wins” the argument but that ultimately our child “wins” because we have come together and hashed out the issue for their benefit. If there are routine times set aside to discuss parenting then the staff meetings don’t have to be something that are dreaded. The can even be something to be looked forward to if you take the time to set a positive atmosphere. Pray together before discussing, that God will use these times to make you stronger as a couple and as a family.