His Needs vs. Her Needs

First, we need to remember that males and females need different things not only from a relationship but they also differ in how they react to a situation.  Females stereotypically will react from an emotional side and males will usually try to take on the same issue from a pragmatic or practical view.  It is amazing how God made us to compliment each other but if we go into dealing with an issue thinking that we will handle issues the same way we are in for failure.  If we recognize that we are different, instead of getting frustrated with the others reaction, we can utilize these differences to balance each other out and come to a great compromise.  This is especially useful for parenting because we can come to the middle on a decision instead of erring to the too soft or too harsh side.  We also have to keep in mind that it is not necessarily that one parent cares more or less about the situation it is that we go into it with very different viewpoints.

The other area where are needs are very different as genders, stereotypically, is what we need from each other at the end of the day.  A mom will probably need her husband to interact with her emotionally and relationally and the husband may have “used all his words for the day” and be ready to zone.  Make sure that you are taking the time to communicate to each other what your needs are so that you can be on the same page, instead of getting frustrated or irritated with each other.  Choosing to be intentional with your relationship will help you to grow closer as friends, this will allow for growth in your marriage even when the days get long.

Choose to be MARRIED with children!

Listen to today’s podcast for more on this topic.