Tips For Dealing With Conflict- Part 1
We have already talked this week about some of the dysfunctional habits we have when we deal with conflict. So how do we deal with conflict appropriately? We are going to spend the last two days this week on tips for dealing with conflict.
The first thing we need to do is to go into conflict with the right attitude. This means if you know you need to talk about something difficult go into the discussion not with the attitude of wanting your opinion to be heard or convincing your spouse you are right on that issue, but with the attitude that you are going to work through the issue for the betterment of the marriage.
Secondly, we need to go in making the choice to understand each other. The goal of marriage is to consistently become more of “one flesh” with our spouse. Handling conflicts is one of the ways we do this if we choose to make the decision to use them (conflicts) to grow closer with each other. Disagreements help us see where the other person is coming from. We should never be ok with the status quo in marriage, we should always choose to grow closer regardless of what stage we are in or how long we have been married.
Finally we can learn from the verse Ephesians 4:26 which says, “In your anger do not sin: don’t let the sun go down on your anger”. There are two things to take away from that verse. The first is that in order to not sin in our anger we may need to time out our discussion in order to calm down and talk rationally. The other thing is we must deal with things promptly. That way we do not let our mind wander and either make a big deal of nothing or allow bitterness to creep in.
Check back tomorrow for more tips on dealing with conflict.
Listen to today’s podcast for insight on this topic as well.