How Did This Happen?
One thing that can help us as we process the fact that we have children that are completely different, is the fact that they are different by design. God tells us in Psalm 139, “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed (not uniformed) body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.”
Each child is different and they are supposed to be different. If a parent is looking to manage the behavior of the child rather than train up a child the differences will be annoying. We need to take the approach that not only is it ok that our children act and react differently but we need to embrace and encourage their personalities. We cannot take a “one size fits all” approach to parenting. Take the time to become a student of each of your children. Learn what makes them tick not only will you have a deeper appreciation of who God has made them to be but it will help you along the parenting journey of molding them into the men and women that God destined them to be.