Many times when you think of listening it seems like a passive activity but listening is an action verb. It is not only something that you do but it is something that you do very intentionally. It is a choice. Listening takes hearing a step farther. When a person is communicating, you are not only hearing the words that are coming out of their mouth but becoming engaged in what they are saying. It involves not just your ears but mind as well. We need to practice something called active listening. This means that our whole body is communicating that we are listening as well. We are facing our children, looking them in the eyes and attempting to understand what they are saying. It is hard to train what we do not practice. When a child feels listened to they will tend to be more and more communicative. The reverse is also true, if a child feels brushed off or absently dismissed it can cause them to clam up. So as we are training our children to listen we as adults need to remember it is a choice but one that will ultimately help to make your child feel valued!
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