Who are we performing for?
If we are attempting to ensure that we are training our children to be human beings not “human doings” then we need to first step back and examine ourselves. There are a couple of questions we need to answer in our own lives. The first is, are we too busy ourselves? Do we have unrealistic expectations for what we can accomplish? We need to be able to model down time for our children. Our children must be able to observe our times of quietness before God, with our spouse and times of simplicity together as family.
The second question we need to answer in our own life is, for whom are we performing? Are we placing the pressures we feel from others on our children? For example, our parents may be putting pressure on us for the way we parent or make us feel like our children must be involved in certain activities. Other families around us may also add to the pressure to have our children involved in activities. Our peers may inadvertently guilt us into pressuring our children by comparing their children to ours. We need to remember that we serve only an Audience of One. He is the only one who will hold us accountable for how we raise our children. Until we as parents can shift our focus to Him we cannot hope to pass this concept on to our children.