Over-Mothering Your Boy – Part 1
One of the pitfalls to avoid is over mothering. There are many reasons where this may be the case. Culturally, it may be how the parent observed all boys raised. As a single mom it would be easy to over mother the opposite gender in the desire to raise them right. Many parents in a reaction to the culture, are tempted to over parent or become helicopter parents with the goal of protecting the children from the world around them. Clearly, you want to make sure that you are doing everything that you can to keep your child safe but we must find the balance especially as moms to not crush their conqueror and explorer hearts. We need to be able to find an outlet for them to run, jump and explore. My youngest, for example, is like a bull in a china closet. He wants to jump off everything. Now obviously, as a three year old it isn’t appropriate for me to allow him to jump off the top of a playground. I must find the balance however, of wanting to run around behind him saying ,”oh!”, “be careful!” and “watch out”. I need to give him space as he grows and not hover, keeping a watchful eye of course, but allow him to “conquer” the playground or tree. We want to raise boys who can be conquerors or heroes where God calls them.
Listen to today’s podcast for more on this topic.