Defining Signal Behavior
The assumption is that kids are born able to communicate. Why would anyone married over a week think that people are automatically able to communicate? We actually spend a lifetime developing our means of communication, more importantly we have to be taught to communicate.
Take my 3 year old son. Everything’s fine. He gets into the car seat with his mother and grandmother up front. We are talking to each other, not him. He wants to be the center of his world so he starts speaking or singing loudly in order to get us to pay attention. If we don’t he escalates the attempt by asking things repeatedly or even misbehaving. Before we know it we are reinforcing negative behavior to get attention.
When we can’t talk we still communicate. We just speak a language that is more difficult to understand: The language of behavior. We are going to spend the rest of this week discussing signal behavior and how we listen to it. A verse to remember this week is James 1:19, “My dear brothers and sisters, be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry.”
Listen to today’s podcast for more on this topic