The First Leg: Severance
We discussed yesterday how God gave us a map to follow for His foundation for marriage. It can be found in Genesis 2:24-25. These verses lay out four principles for us. These four principles, like chair legs, are what we can build a strong marriage on. The first part of verse 24 states, “For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother…” Psalm 45:10 states it another way “Listen, O daughter, consider and give ear: Forget your people and your father’s house.” The first principle is severance. We don’t need to take this literally but we need to think through the things from our upbringing that we may need to cut away or not bring into our marriage. Are there any bad habits that we observed? Are there “gender roles” that worked for our parents but may not work for our relationship? We must take the time to sift through our attitudes and expectations that we bring into marriage from our past. Which are helpful and which are harmful? Things like family traditions can be helpful and enrich our new family but that is the reason they are there. If traditions are bringing strife it’s time to take a step back and evaluate.
Take time to process this idea of severance and be sure to focus on yourself, not your spouse, for the areas you may need to sever from your past.
Listen to today’s podcast and be sure to check back as we discuss the other three principles to building a marriage your children will want to emulate.