Where does Self-Esteem Begin in a Child’s Development Process?
When does our child’s self-esteem begin to be built? It actually begins at birth with the mother/child bonding. Through the bonding experience of those early days and months we are communicating love and security. A child cannot yet comprehend the concept of God as their Father so until that time we are communicating His love through our parenting.
The thing that we need to remember is that, unlike God, we are not perfect and will make mistakes. That is actually a relieving thought; there is no such thing as a perfect parent. We all may have the best of intentions but we will make mistakes. Admitting these mistakes will actually help your child through these moments. We can also use these times as a teaching tool, although mom and dad aren’t perfect their Heavenly Father is.
We can also communicate our love when our child makes a mistake. Our child must know that we love them not how they perform. We can create this environment by verbally communicating our love even when they have messed up or broken a rule. We will talk more tomorrow about self-esteem and discipline.
Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on your child’s self-esteem