How Discipline Compliments Self-Esteem
How does discipline affect self-esteem? It seems that many today would think that disciplining a child would hurt their self-esteem, which is why we have so many homes with so little rules. In fact the opposite is true. When a child has no consistent boundaries placed around them they feel very insecure. Just like a fish that has been taken out of the safe boundary of the water they thrive in.
How we discipline our children is the key to this. We must have a consistent plan in place for discipline because when we do not we become the consequence. We also must be very careful not to remove our relationship as we discipline. Which means no yelling or constant lecturing. Be intentional to restore relationship as part of the discipline process. Say something like this, “I’m so sorry that you have chosen to go to bed early tonight because of your attitude earlier. It makes me sad that you chose to go to bed because I was looking forward to spending time with you. I love you very much, which is why we are working on this area. “ Calmly explain the reason for the consequence and reaffirm our love for the child. This way when we are consistent with our discipline the child can make the connection that they chose the consequence because of their behavior, it is not that we are mad at them or love them less today.
Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on your child’s self-esteem.