The Five “A’s”- The Need For Admiration
It is amazing when you are dating and the relationship is new how your significant other can seem to do no wrong, and even when they do it is easily glossed over. Equally amazing how that changes quickly in a marriage and almost reverses. It is easy to pick at your spouse for small petty things. This is why our need for admiration is so important to remember, because nitpicking undermines this. Men need to feel admiration and respect from their wives. They need to feel that they are doing a great job protecting, providing for and leading their family. Even if there are times when they are not, they will be much more apt to discuss if they have felt their wives continued respect. Women need to feel their husband’s love and admiration. They still need to feel beautiful to their husbands, feel protected and cherished. When God gave us Ephesians 5 as a road map for this there were no conditions. It doesn’t say husband love your wives as Christ loved the church and wives respect your husbands but only as much as they deserve your love and respect. It is unconditional. This reveals the deep need for both spouses to feel admiration.