The Reason for Romance in Your Marriage with Rosemary Barnes | Part 2

Your Spouses Self-Esteem Is In Your Hands

Ephesians 5:33 “So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”  This was the verse that we brought up yesterday on how to express love.  A lot of what this verse is talking about is that illusive often “secular” phrase, self-esteem.  Self-esteem is not a focus on self.  The term self-esteem is a compass or directional word.  It is a word that indicates two things, where you derive your worth from and how well your system is working.  No one can meet all the self-esteem needs of another person.  Self-esteem must come from God, but God also uses the marriage relationship to enhance a person’ s image of self, to affirm and encourage spouses.  Unfortunately, most people get married to get their needs met.   Rather then focusing on my own needs and striving to get them met, I need to make the effort to access, understand and meet the needs of my spouse.   Deuteronomy 24:5 says “A newly married man must not be drafted into the army or given any other special responsibilities.  He must be free to be at home for one year, bringing happiness to the wife he has married.”    Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have a year off of extra responsibilities just to focus our efforts on how to meet each other’s needs?  While getting that year off is not something that happens anymore the focus is no less true.  How can we do better at affirming and encouraging our spouse?


Listen to today’s podcast for more on this topic.