The Stages of the Development of “The Power of No” | Part 2

Early Childhood Years

Just like in sports, when you know the rules and the boundaries it allows for the players to have fun and enjoy themselves.  The same can happen when our no is consistent we create an environment to be able to have fun.  If our no doesn’t always mean no, we have created an atmosphere for fighting and chaos.  There will be a constant and exhausting battle for who will have the last word, parent or child.

For example, a parent and child are out together at the movies.  When the parent gets popcorn for the family to share, the child sees the candy at the counter and asks if they can have candy as well.  The answer to their question is, “No, we are going to share the popcorn as a family.”  If a child has been trained that no means no, then this is the end of the discussion and the family can go in and enjoy the movie.  If a child has been trained that there are many different behaviors that can change my parents mind, then they will proceed in acting on these.  There may be whining, crying, and even temper tantrums.   A scene like this is exhausting and will ultimately cause the fun activity to be ruined for both parent and child.  This can be avoided if a parent is willing to always be consistent with no.  We have the freedom have fun and enjoy our kids more if they are trained to know where the boundary lines are!

 

 

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