Trust in Your Marriage | Part 3

How Do You Rebuild Trust

How do we rebuild trust when it has been broken in our relationship? Rebuilding is a long process.  It is not something that can happen immediately. First, we must choose to forgive our spouse and release them.  It is so easy when we have been wronged, especially by someone who we hold so dear, to want to “punish” them.  It is very difficult to release them when a very dramatic breach of trust has taken place. It may even be wise to utilize the wisdom of a Christian counselor to help the couple work through the wound.  But at some point the spouse whose trust has been broken must make the choice to trust again.  It is a long process and will take patience on the parts of both parties.  1 Corinthians 13 tells us that “Love keeps no records of wrongs” and gently reminds us that “Love never fails.” In 2 Corinthians 10:5, we learn how to do this. It says, “We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”  When our mind drifts to a place of mistrust or worry we must take that thought captive.  We cannot allow ourselves to dwell there. There is the difference. We cannot control if our mind goes to a place of mistrust but we are in control of how long we stay.  Instead of dwelling on the negative use those thoughts for good, as a reminder to pray for your spouse and your marriage.

For more on this topic of rebuilding trust, listen to today’s podcast.