How To Work Together As Parents
What happens if my spouse and I continue to have difficulty seeing eye to eye on an issue? For many families the children will have temperaments similar to one parent. It is sometimes easy for that parent, with the similar temperament, to excuse the behavior of that child. On some occasions the opposite occurs, the similar temperament parent is harder on that child because of the similarities. This can cause disagreements when a parent is being too lax or too hard on a child. During a parental staff meeting always keep your goals in the forefront of the conversation. Some of the ultimate goals of parenting are raising a child to be a Godly adult and raising a child to be both marriageable and employable.
When there are disagreements on how to handle an issue you can look at it through the lens of the ultimate goals. Ask yourself, is this an issue that will effect their future marriage/employment or is this merely something that I find annoying? Back talk can be one such issue. One parent may feel that a child is merely expressing himself, where the other parent may feel it is disrespectful. When looking through the lens of future success, back talk is not something that is tolerated by teachers or bosses. This means that it is something that should be dealt with. Keeping the big picture goals out in front of parenting will help to make the day-to-day decisions easier.
Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on what to do with disagreements on parenting.