Why Are Parents So Afraid Today?
In some areas we over protect our children, then in other areas we tend to under protect them. Especially, when it comes to “their” space and “their” technology. Ask yourself whose room is their bedroom? When a parent says “your bedroom” to the child that’s a statement of location and where you sleep. It’s not a statement of who owns it. The same applies for a child’s cellphone and internet/computer usage.
First of all, they don’t have any space … room. Technically, it’s our room because we are the ones who pay the bill for it every month. And most often, it’s our phone they are using. We need to take ownership of their space and technology because we need to be responsible to protect our children. It’s important for parents to decide that this is not an issue of giving our children privacy, it’s an issue of protecting our children.
Think about it this way, no one in their right mind would allow a stranger off the street to baby-sit for their child. No one would allow a stranger to knock on the door and say, “I’m here to spend some time with your child … alone.” Yet many parents are unknowingly doing just that. When it comes to technology … and it is coming at us faster and faster … your child needs some basic parental leadership. Two basic questions need to be answered for your child: what forms of technology (Facebook, Twitter, texting etc.) are they allowed to use … at what age and what are the boundaries. There are no real boundaries unless a parent chooses to establish the boundaries. If there are no boundaries established then virtually anyone has access to your child without your approval, without your awareness and without even identifying their true identity or intentions.
Technology isn’t bad anymore than water in a pool is bad. But a pool with no rules is incredibly dangerous. There must be a balance in allowing your child freedom, but it absolutely cannot come at the cost of their protection. One of parenting’s ultimate ends is to protect children.
Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on privacy vs. protection.