Sibling Rivalry | Part 2

Sibling Rivalry | Part 2

Jun 20

Using Sibling Rivalry as a Training Tool

It is so easy to get irritated and frustrated when our children don’t get along. Constant fighting between siblings can be exhausting for parents. However, sibling rivalry is a great teaching tool for our children to learn many life lessons.  One lesson is how to handle it appropriately when someone irritates you.   Another lesson is conflict management.  The lesson that life is not always fair can also be taught through siblings.  Keep focused on the importance of these lessons and come up with a plan for utilizing sibling rivalry for training.   This will help give purpose for dealing with these issues and help us as parents to not feel so frustrated.

Take time to set up parameters on where the line of inappropriate behaviors is.  Then have a family meeting to discuss this line, the consequences for stepping over the line and options for appropriately dealing with the conflict.  Giving your children options on how to appropriately deal with it when their sibling irritates them is part of the training.  They can talk to their sibling, remove themselves from the situation or refocus on something else. Another key to training is not only handing out consequences for inappropriate behavior but also rewarding the positive.  If our children make the right choice and avoid the fighting we need to make sure we are going crazy with praise.

 

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Sibling Rivalry | Part 1

Sibling Rivalry | Part 1

Jun 19

What Is Sibling Rivalry?

This week we will discuss a topic that anyone who has more then one child will deal with, sibling rivalry.  We need to take a step back and realize that sibling rivalry is a normal behavior.  It can be used as a signal behavior for parents.  The children may be in need of attention, they may be blowing steam from a stressful day, and the behavior can simply mean that they are tired or bored.

As a parenting team, we need to evaluate what our plan will be.  At what point are we going to get involved and what are the unacceptable behaviors?  We can look at this behavior as another training opportunity.  Our children need to be able to work some of these issues out on their own.   It is part of learning how to live in close proximity with another person.  If they do not learn at home their first experiences with this will be in the college dorm or when they get married.  There is a point where we as parents will need to step in for guidance.  We will spend the rest of this week discussing the balance of helping your children work out the issues of sibling rivalry.

 

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Fathers and Sons | Part 5

Fathers and Sons | Part 5

Jun 16

Raise Him To Be A Godly Husband

A verse to think about as we end our week on fathers and sons.

Ephesians 6:4 And now a word to you fathers. Don’t make your children angry by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction approved by the Lord.

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Fathers and Sons | Part 4

Fathers and Sons | Part 4

Jun 15

Raise Him To Be A Servant Leader

Some people are born leaders but it would probably be very difficult to find someone who was a born servant leader.  That takes an example of servant leadership and lots of training.  Training a son to be a leader means he must first know Who to follow.  A leader can’t make decisions without a template for those decisions. His father can help provide that template.  Listen to today’s podcast for the areas in which a father can train his son, to raise up a servant leader.

 

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Fathers and Sons | Part 3

Fathers and Sons | Part 3

Jun 14

Raise Him To Love God

There is a need for us to rethink what it means to be a father. A Father is not just someone who helps to bring a child into the world.  He is not even a male body who comes home at night, a provider or a bill payer.  A great father is all of these things plus a role model and servant leader. This calls for a huge level of sacrifice.  This calls for a huge commitment to Christ

What is the job of the Father when it comes to raising a son?  The mandate can be found in Deuteronomy 6.

Deut 6:5 Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.

6 These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts.

7 Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.

9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

 

Today’s home is providing the wrong things; things that are perpetuating the immaturity of adolescence.  We are no longer raising our children to become adult leaders.  We are raising our children to conform to the patterns of this world and its materialism.

Remember, America won’t be changed by the white House, the beginning of true change for America can only be started in your house!

 

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Fathers and Sons | Part 2

Fathers and Sons | Part 2

Jun 14

Why The Relationship Is Difficult

Yesterday we mentioned how different the father/ son relationship is from years past.  A son was basically able to be an apprentice to his father.  He was able to observe not only how to run the family business but also learn what it means to be a man.  He was able to see how his father handled difficulty, marriage, faith and finances.

Today’s father doesn’t have the privilege of his son apprenticing him.  In order to instill these things in his son he has to make the effort, and choose to make that effort a priority.  Not only does today’s father have to work to find the time to train his son in the areas important to manhood, he may not have had that role modeled for himself.  Many of today’s fathers come from broken homes, single parent homes, or their father simply did not have the time or know how to make the relationship a priority.

It is important for today’s generation of fathers to make a priority instilling the values that are important to manhood!

 

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