The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #4
Jan 11
#4- Potential Cracks In The Wall- Impulse Control
One thing that can cause a life to not be secure is a lack of self-control. Not being able to control ones impulses has vast consequences from affairs to self-inflicted financial problems. This is why from an early age it is imperative that we teach our children how to control their impulses. The slogan “you want it, you got it” is not a very wise way to live life. For more on this very important topic check out our week long series “Teaching Impulse Control” by clicking here.
Check out today’s podcast, as well, for more insight.
The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #3
Jan 10
#3 – The Walls- The Power of No
When we train our children that our “no” means “no” everytime, no exeption, we place boundaries around them. It gives them a sense of security that there is a constant. If we are not consistent with no or they are able to negotiate their way out of “no”. If this is the case this ultimately can cause a sense of frustration in our children. Think about how many times at various sports games how frustrating it is when the referee or official is inconsistent in their calls. Then the rules of the game don’t really matter. It is the same in our homes.
Check out our whole series on “The Power of No” by clicking here.
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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting # 2
Jan 09
#2 – The Foundation Of Life
One of the things that is extremely important to how secure a building is, is its foundation. If there is a crack or it is not a secure foundation then the building will not stand. The first major storm or winds and it will shift or crumble. It is the same with our children. What we lay as the foundation for living is equally important. That needs to be our relationship with God.
We want our children’s faith to stand the tests and the temptations when they leave our home. The number of youth group kids that leave church after they graduate high school is staggering, research shows it is anywhere from 65-94%. Why? Because there is not a firm foundation built. Church becomes just a way of life or something to do, they miss that a relationship with God is something that the entirety of life is built on. Make sure that you as a family are making that a priority in your home. Check out the series that we did recently about how to cultivate your child’s relationship with God, by clicking here.
Take the time to set your child’s life up on a firm foundation!
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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting #1
Jan 08
#1- The Motivational “Why”
The first thing that we need to do as we look at the 30 things that we must train our children in before they go out the door, is check our motivations as parents. Where do our priorities truly lie? If our priority is our job or solely providing for our family, then we will spend all of our time, energy and ultimately ourselves on that. When we get home our spouse and children will get the “leftovers”. We need to make the choice, daily sometimes, what our priority is. Our priorities need to be first and foremost our relationship with God, next our marriage, and thirdly our children. Of course we need to provide for our family but that cannot ensnare all of our time and energies.
As you drive home or get up in the morning, pray and make the choice of what your priority is. That way you go into your time with your family intentionally. There is no way to train your children in these thirty areas if we are not intentional and treat training as a priority. Choose, through your relationship with God, to make your relationship with your spouse and children your first priority!
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The 30 Imperatives of Parenting
Jan 07
An Intro To Those 30 Things
Telling a parent that there are 30 things they need to train their child is a little overwhelming. So lets look at it this way… there are 30 things every child needs to know to be successful at what God has for them to do. Either we as parents take the time to train our children or God loves them enough to train them. For example, Jacob didn’t train Joseph, so God allowed Joseph to have a training course imposed on him. It was rugged but successful.
In the past much of this training was done automatically by the way society was set up. Usually, the child worked for the family. It was understood that the family was the primary trainer of the child and because of this the child learn responsibility. The parent didn’t have to think about it, the child’s extra set of hand were needed. Today’s parents have to be intentional.
Take the time to decide what is the best use of the limited family time.
Listen to today’s podcast for more on and an overview of these thirty things.
