It’s Never Too Late
There are some children who because of temperament or strong will seem to deal with anger issues more. If you step back as a parent and feel as though all of your children are “barbarians” or strong willed, it may be a flawed system. A lack of boundaries or structure can cause anger in children. Children seem to have radar for inconsistency and know when their parents are not being consistent. If there is not a plan in place then it is easy for us to shoot from the hip with consequences and be inconsistent. This means that the consequence may be different each time, or with each child, for the same offence. This can cause anger issues.
If we think about it, we seem to get angry at the police officer who pulls us over, as if he has done something wrong. But the system, although these men and women deserve our respect for daily putting their lives on the line, is flawed. There is no way a police officer can pull us over every time we go a mile over the speed limit, there is just not that much man power. So it creates anger because of the inconsistency. We place the blame on the officer, who is merely doing their job, instead of on the person who is really at fault, ourselves. It is the same in parenting if our plan is inconsistent. But the good news is it is never too late. If you are seeing warning signs of this in your home take some time even this weekend to evaluate your plan. See if there need to be changes made to make it more consistent!
Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on anger in children.