Raising a Grateful Child | Part 4


Teaching Gratitude Through the Christmas Season

Choose to continue the momentum that you have built training your children in gratitude through the holiday season.  Christmas can be a difficult time for our children to have a grateful heart.  There are millions of dollars being spent this season on advertising to convince us that we need things that we don’t have.

One way to continue the momentum is by serving others.  Continue to create excitement for your family service project.  Look for other places you can serve others and include your children.  Offer to help an older woman or a woman with small children, load their groceries into their car.  Have your children help you babysit for a couple with small children so they can get out during this busy season.  Have your children help bake cookies to take to the neighbors.  There are many ways to serve others we just have to make that our focus and wait for the opportunity.  You can even make that a game with your children, who can spot an opportunity to serve first.

Another thing we can do as a family is continue our “I am grateful for list”. Every night before bed or at the dinner table, each family member can say one thing that they are thankful for.  Continue your focus on gratitude through out the Christmas season.


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Raising a Grateful Child – Part 3


Using Thanksgiving to Prepare for Christmas

We talked yesterday about cultivating a grateful heart by focusing on serving those around us.  A great Thanksgiving table discussion, even with extended family, is beginning to plan your family Christmas service project.  What a great way to show your thanks to God for all He has given your family.

One idea is, with your children you can pick a family to bless this holiday season.  There are many ways to do this.  You could take little things to the family like homemade cookies and card through the season. Have your children put some of their allowance towards picking out a gift for the children of the family. Or if there is something that the family specifically needs you can all pool your money towards that.

Another idea that was done by a family was to wake up and spend part of Christmas day at a local homeless shelter serving. There are also many in nursing facilities that don’t have visitors and would love cookies and smiles from children.  There are countless ideas for serving those around you this holiday season.  Spend part of the Thanksgiving holiday planning for your family’s Christmas service project.

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Teaching The Gift Of Giving | Part 5


What to do with Santa…

The discussion of Santa will stir up different emotions in Christian circles.  For some, Santa totally distracts from the message of Christmas and so there are very strong feelings against Santa.  Others feel strongly that there is no harm in the fun of Santa.

We would like to say that this must be a personal family decision but there are some things to consider.  First is if we are teaching gratitude and teaching our children how to give to others then obviously Santa cannot be the one bringing all the gifts.  If you do decide to do Santa in your house maybe Santa could bring one gift or be the one who fills the stockings.  Secondly the attempt is to make the center of the Christmas season Jesus and not Santa. Which is another reason why it is a good idea for a gift, not all, to be from Santa.  Finally, we need to remember that childhood should be about imagination and fantasy.  The harsh adult world is imposing itself far to early on our children.  It is our job as parents to fight for their childhood.  The fun of Christmas may be a perfect time.  Whichever you decide to do take full advantage of this Christmas season to begin or enjoy family traditions.

Listen to today’s podcast for what we did with Santa growing up in the Barnes’ house.

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Teaching The Gift Of Giving | Part 4


Using Christmas Traditions to Teach

We can use traditions at Christmas to point back to the birth of Jesus, which is the reason we celebrate Christmas.  Choose to look for ways through the holiday season to point back to God’s gift to us.  As you are decorating, you can even use these moments as teaching tools.  For example as you are trying to get all the knots out of the Christmas lights, ask your children what they think the lights represent.  They can represent that Jesus is the light of the world. They can also show that when they are plugged in they can shine brightly.  Just like we can’t do anything with out God as our power source but when we are “plugged into Him” we can shine His light.

As you are hanging ornaments you can talk about how the Christmas tree can represent Jesus.  It was alive but was cut off for us.  Make a game out of seeing who can do the best at finding how each ornament points to Jesus.

We can do this all through the Christmas season in different areas.  This is a great way to start teaching our children to look for how God reveals Himself in everyday life.  Again, as your children are leaving home what do you want their Christmas memories to be? This year choose to keep Jesus the center of Christmas.


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Teaching The Gift of Giving | Part 3


What Is Your Christmas Ministry?

A thought to ponder, what if Jesus spent Christmas with you, what would you do differently? What would the focus of the day be, would it be about the presents or about serving others?  It is ironic that the very person this day is celebrating, so often, we forget to honor.

The week of Thanksgiving we discussed choosing a service project for your family to spend time on through the Christmas season.  Now is the time to put that plan into action.  Giving to others is truly how we give a birthday present to Jesus.  In fact, in Matthew 25:34-30, Jesus says, “Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’ Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’ The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.'”

What will your family birthday present to Jesus be this year?

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on teaching the gift of giving.

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Teaching the Gift of Giving | Part 2


Using Christmas to Teach Contentment

One of the ways to teach contentment with what you have is by focusing outward.  When you are focusing on something other then yourself or the gifts that you are getting, then it is easier to be content.  An easy way to do this with children is by creating excitement for giving gifts to others.  A few months ago, we talked about having your child save their allowance for Christmas presents.  Depending on the amount your child has saved you can match their savings or a portion of their savings.  Set aside some time to take each child out individually to shop or split it up where dad takes the kids to shop for mom and visa versa.  Make that a special time where maybe you get up early, go out for breakfast and then head out to beat the shopping rush.  Remember that excitement is contagious so be careful not to communicate that this is just one more thing on the to do list.

Christmas morning don’t just make a mad rush tearing open all the gifts but take the time to enjoy each person opening a gift.  Allow your children to feel the excitement of handing the gift they bought to their sibling and watching their face as they open it.  The memories of learning to give are much more important to look back on as adults.  When we are beginning to turn the focus of Christmas from what is gotten to what is given, then we are training our children to be content.


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Teaching the Gift of Giving | Part 1


Fighting Materialism at Christmas

Christmas season can be very stressful and overwhelming to parents.  There are so many parties and activities.  Probably the most stressful is the feeling that we must give our children a perfectly magical Christmas experience. And of course have found the perfect gifts.

We need to look at big picture.  When our children are grown what do we want them to remember about Christmas? Was it a time spent focusing on the true meaning and through the Joy of that, serving others? Or was it a time for materialistic overindulgence?  This is not to say that we don’t give our children gifts but more what is our focus for the season.  Take the time this season to think through what traditions will help our children focus on what the true meaning of Christmas is and the joy of giving to others because of it.


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Managing Your Christmas Traditions | Part 5


One Question

As we head into Christmas week there is one question to keep at the forefront of your mind.  That question is, if Jesus was with your family this Christmas would He feel celebrated and at the center of this event?  Our entire Christmas discussion boils down to that thought.  Remember that we will be held accountable for the spiritual guidance of our children.  Don’t miss the huge opportunity this Christmas week to point your children to the birth of their Savior!

Check back next week for a daily family devotional on each of the Christmas characters.


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Managing Your Christmas Traditions | Part 4


The Tradition of a Worshipful Christmas Eve

Christmas Eve can be such a crazy day in the Christmas season.  Most families have relatives come into town or they are driving/flying to see relatives.  Some parents are frantically wrapping or putting the bigger toys together.  Some families spend Christmas Eve night at a party or at a Christmas service.  A great goal would be to have everything accomplished before Christmas Eve so we can take a breath.   Like we have been talking about all of our traditions should be pointing to the meaning behind the day, Jesus birth, not all the presents under the tree.  Christmas eve is a great time to refocus our family.

Remember we as parents set the tone for our home. If our attitude is hurried or stressed we will be communicating that to our children.  Christmas Eve can be a quiet time to ponder, like Mary, what God has given us, in the gift of His Son.  Taking advantage of one of the many Christmas Eve services is a great idea to help set the tone.  Don’t let it stop there, however.  After the service utilize the rest of the evening to point to Jesus.  A tradition in our house was to find baby Jesus, he was hidden for all the Christmas season, and place him in the manger of our nativity set.  The last thing we did before be was not to hang stockings and put out milk and cookies, but was to read Luke 2.

Take advantage of the last evening before Christmas to continue to set the focus of the season!


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Managing Your Christmas Traditions | Part 3


Christmas Traditions You Don’t Know You Have

There are many traditions that we begin to do habitually and don’t even realize it.  Sometimes these are not positive traditions, some even harmful.  As we get closer to Christmas now is the time to analyze what may be negative habits that you have made a tradition.

They can be personal attitudes or can involve the whole family.  Maybe the children spend some, or all, of the family activity nights fighting.  Is there one extended family member that every year you have a difficult time getting along with?  Some spouses don’t get a game plan for Christmas spending and that leads to a fight every year when the bills start coming in.  Another big negative tradition is building up unrealistic expectations for what Christmas and the holiday season will bring and when it doesn’t meet our needs then we are left feeling depressed and empty.

When we start to look at these negative traditions we realize that maybe our focus is off.  Either we do indeed have unrealistic expectations that everything will be perfect or we are simply setting our gaze to the day rather then what the day actually represents.  It will help us to fight that feeling of disappointment when we are focusing on celebrating the big gift that God gave each and every one of us.


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