The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 4

The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 4

Oct 22

Talking Through And About Conflict

This week we have been talking about the importance of making communication training a priority in parenting. We have also mentioned that knowing how to communicate is a vital characteristic to have for a successful marriage.  Teaching your child the basics of communication is important because it will lay the foundation for them to develop into successful communicators with their future spouse.   As your child grows the home should be a training ground to teach things such as how to communicate feelings, learn to ask for and grant forgiveness and work through disagreements.

All of us have personality and temperament bents that can affect our communication style.  Some of us are stubborn and don’t like to give in during an argument while others find it fun to argue just for arguing sake.  People who are more laid back may not want to offend by sharing a differing opinion.  Still others may clam up when asked how they feel.  Through out childhood and adolescence we can begin to decipher our child’s communication style and help them process through any pitfalls that may come with their particular personality.

 
Teaching Your Children to Share

Teaching Your Children to Share

Aug 03

One of the most important aspects of communication is the ability to share ones feelings. Although this seems such a basic form of communication it can be easily overlooked in the training of our children. Yesterday we talked about how our current culture is so distracted and fast paced that we cannot take our job of training our children to communicate for granted.  It must be something that is done very intentionally.

When children are younger we are constantly reminding them to, “Use your Words”, in order to help them communicate. As they grow older we may allow them to try and communicate through emotions,  such as anger or frustration, because we have grown weary of the time it takes to deal with their behavior .  However, when our children are acting out in frustration or anger, we need to remind them to use their words.  If our children are not trained how to communicate their feelings both positive and negative, it can lead to some destructive behavior patterns.  Bottling up emotions can be very dangerous.  When you are teaching your child how to communicate their feelings, you are also beginning to help them learn how to process through their emotions.  Emotions that are raw and un-processed can also lead to destructive behaviors.   We must be constantly in tune with our children’s day to day so that we can remind them to “use their words. “

Failure to Communicate

Failure to Communicate

Aug 02

During the month of August we will be discussing one of the areas that can impact your child’s  future.  We will be talking about training your kids to communicate.  This is one of those valuable tools that will help your kids be marriageable and employable in the future.

There are many adults today that have not been trained how to communicate.  Because of  the distractions of today’s culture this is something that we have to make a priority for the family.  In the past families did things together for entertainment so communication was more natural.  With the introduction of television the entertainment was moved from internal, or within the family, to external.  This and other technological advances have made it that we must be intentional in training our children to communicate.

The School Years, part 2

The School Years, part 2

Jul 16

Choosing to home school or send your children to Christian school brings up different focal points for parenting toward independence.  The homeschooled child needs to have times of interaction with other children.  There are many opportunities today for homeschoolers to learn socialization skills.  There are many home school groups that meet, for PE classes or other classes that are difficult to do individually, during the week.  It is also important to have your child involved in the children’s ministry at your church, where they can interact with kids their own age. 

A focal point that is positive for both children who are homeschooled and who go to Christian school, is making sure that children can have some supervised interaction with people in the community.  Community sports leagues or gymnastic classes are great for this.  You can be there to observe but it gives your child a great learning opportunity.   As they are around people who do not share their belief system it creates opportunities for communication.  You can take your child out for ice cream and talk to them about what they’ve experienced.   This can be a wonderful time with your child to help them process.

The Importance of Affirmation

The Importance of Affirmation

Jun 23

The trait that we will discuss today, is a very important trait but it is also one that is forgotten often in the rush of our day to day lives.  It is the concept of affirmation.  Children need to hear “well done” from their father.  For many reasons there are few others in your children’s lives who can speak this level of affirmation.

This means that you have to be aware and involved in the day to day of your children.  They need to see you cheering on the side line.  They need to see you in the audience after a recital or performance.  They need to hear “You did a great job! I am so proud of you!”  These simple words speak such volumes, they are carried in their hearts into adulthood.

Children need to hear well done for the daily things as well.  Such as doing a good job at their chores, being helping to their mom, or getting along with their sibling.  They also need to know that you are proud of them when they make the right choice in a hard decision or do well in school.  Positive reinforcement from their father has such an impact on the choices your children will make.  Don’t just give consequences for the poor choices or poor behavior.  Reinforce the good ones by tell your children “well done!”