The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 3

The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 3

Jun 28

Teaching Your Child Communication By Example

There are many things that we teach our children by simply showing them how to do it.  One of the most important and sometimes difficult things about parenting is that we must always be aware there are little eyes watching everything we do.  This means our words and actions need to match up.

We must teach them how to communicate by example.  We each need to ask ourselves, what do my children see when I am angry?  Are we able to process and talk through things when we are upset or do we take out our anger on those around us?  Remember we must teach communication intentionally and one of the biggest ways children learn is by observing those closest to them.

Another area that we can teach by example is how to listen.  One of the first places we can be an example in listening is with our children.  This is not always as easy as it sounds.  How many times do we absently answer a child’s question without really listening to what they are saying? Are there ever times that we assess a situation and make up our minds about what happened without listening to our children?  That is just in everyday situations, when a child is acting out listening can become even more difficult.  We need to remember to be intentional because our children will learn how to listen from how we listen to them.

 
The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 1

The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 1

Jun 26

Why Is This So Important?

For the next two weeks, we will be talking about training your kids to communicate.  This is one of those valuable tools that will help your kids be marriageable and employable in the future.

There are many adults today that have not been trained how to communicate.  Because of  the distractions of today’s culture this is something that we have to make a priority for the family.  In the past families did things together for entertainment so communication was more natural.  With the introduction of the three “T’s” (television, transportation, technology) the natural family communication state has been interrupted. With television, the entertainment was moved from internal, or within the family, to external.  This and other technological advances have made it that we must be intentional in training our children to communicate.

 
The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 2

The Importance of Teaching Your Child to Communicate | Part 2

Jun 26

Helping My Child Share Feelings In A Positive Way

One of the most important aspects of communication is the ability to share ones feelings. Although this seems such a basic form of communication it can be easily overlooked in the training of our children. Yesterday we talked about how our current culture is so distracted and fast paced that we cannot take our job of training our children to communicate for granted.  It must be something that is done very intentionally.

When children are younger we are constantly reminding them to, “Use your Words”, in order to help them communicate. As they grow older we may allow them to try and communicate through emotions,  such as anger or frustration, because we have grown weary of the time it takes to deal with their behavior .  However, when our children are acting out in frustration or anger, we need to remind them to use their words.  If our children are not trained how to communicate their feelings both positive and negative, it can lead to some destructive behavior patterns.  Bottling up emotions can be very dangerous.  When you are teaching your child how to communicate their feelings, you are also beginning to help them learn how to process through their emotions.  Emotions that are raw and un-processed can also lead to destructive behaviors.   We must be constantly in tune with our children’s day to day so that we can remind them to “use their words.

 
Role Modeling Commitment Through Your Marriage | Part 5

Role Modeling Commitment Through Your Marriage | Part 5

May 05

Reasons To Commit To Your Marriage

As an engaged couple, rarely do you hear how hard marriage truly is. The movies we watch generally don’t help us to have realistic expectations for marriage. We all arrive at our wedding day with hopes of the “happily ever after”. And it is for a while, or what we call the honeymoon stage. But what happens next?

The next stage of marriage can be referred to as the disillusionment phase. This is where a couple realizes that this could be more difficult then they thought. You may begin to wonder where that awesome guy or girl went that you had dated.

The next phase is called the misery phase. This is where we get stuck in our rut of disagreements over the same things day after day, or worse. Sadly many couples stay in this season of marriage because they are trying, ironically, to “keep peace” or because neither spouse is willing to make the first move to better the relationship.

The final stage is the stage where we have to make the choice to commit to the relationship. The reason we can have the strength to do this can only be found in a relationship with God. This is a spiritual decision. Choosing to love your spouse even if you don’t currently like them is some thing that is done through God’s strength. Keep in mind that God is the author of marriage and it is His will that marriage not only work but that they are awesome relationships. Why else would He compare His relationship to the Church as a marriage? So something that should give us encouragement, on the hard days, is that when we are praying for our spouse and our marriage we are praying in accordance with His will and He hears our prayers!

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic.

 
Role Modeling Commitment Through Your Marriage | Part 4

Role Modeling Commitment Through Your Marriage | Part 4

May 04

How To Commit To Your Marriage

One of the things that we need to assess as we are choosing to commit to our marriage is what we are indeed committing to? Are we committing to work through conflict, to fixing the other person or are we committed to the relationship and to God? This is a key question to ask oneself because the answer will affect the outcome of your commitment level.

We need to be committed to the relationship and ultimately to God. If we have committed to working through every issue then we will have a hard time dropping petty arguments that may not need to be addressed for the sake of peace. If we are committed to fixing our spouse then we do not give them grace as we work through things. Something to keep in mind on this issue is that it isn’t our job to fix our spouse it is the job of the Holy Spirit. We need to be focused on what is best for the relationship.

An area that will also help commitment is focusing on building each other up. This is helpful when there are times of disagreement. It will go so much more smoothly if you have spent more time building each other up then tearing each other down with disagreements. So, an easy thing you can do daily to live out your commitment is making the choice to say things to encourage and build up your spouse. It will be well worth the effort!

Listen to today’s podcast for more insight on this topic.