Children thrive under consistent boundaries. When parents are not on the same page these boundaries cannot be consistent. It can ultimately make the child feel very insecure. Children will even test this to see if mom and dad are on the same page. There are many times when a child will go to one parent and ask for something, if the answer they receive is not to their liking they will then go to the other parent. There are even times they are bold enough to ask the second parent in front of the first. We need to take these opportunities to support our spouse 100 percent. We must present a united front and communicate that we truly are “one flesh.”
When dealing with a blending family this is even more important. The natural parent must go out of their way and look for opportunities to support the leadership of their spouse. Children, because of the new circumstances, will try even harder to see if their natural parent and stepparent are on the same page. For these families the parenting staff meetings are all the more important as you are ultimately bringing more then two spouses together but two families.